Been signposted to this site by a friend and I''m very glad I found it as I seriously need some help - not quite sure what but something.
OK, to summarise. Been with girlfriend several years and she genuinely was my best friend and the love of my life (and she insisted the same was true for her). We took it slowly so as not to risk spoiling anything but were together virtually every day. Talk of marriage; too many fun times and laughs to count; fantastic love life; Absolute trust - the works. All was pretty perfect, really.
Then, a few months ago, she claimed to be stressed from work and just needed a little bit of space. OK. Believe it or not this stretched into months. Alarm bells clearly ringing I gave her every occasion to end things if she wasn''t happy but she insisted she didn''t want to end, loved me, couldn''t bear the thought of her life without me.
Three days ago, a text - sorry, don''t love you anymore. Take care. All my subsequent calls have been ignored.
It''s pretty obvious what''s happened and I''m reeling, I admit it. I loved her with all my heart and soul and TRUSTED her. The thought of her simply not giving a damn anymore is terrible. The thought of her with someone else is just too much.
Welcome. You are still in shock and will be for some time. But you have come to the right place for support - only those who have been through this awfulness can truly understand how you feel.
Explore the site, maybe think about writing a blog or popping into chat. It sounds as though what you need is emotional support but if you have other questions aboutthe practicalities of splitting up then post them too.
Yes, I''ve been looking through this forum and there''s some utter horror stories on here. I think what makes it worse in my case is that I went through a terrible divorce some years ago that left it difficult for me to trust. I intentionally stayed single for several years to avoid ''the rebound''. Then the ex came along, broke down the barriers, so to speak...and now does this
Meant to add in my opening post - just a couple of days before she sent a text stressing how much she adored me and missed me. Am I missing something here?
Cheers, LW. I''m so distressed I''m literally finding it difficult to type, my hands are shaking so badly. Difficult for a bloke to admit but true. I''m not naive but I genuinely can''t understand how she could keep lying to me, keep me hanging on waiting, keep telling me she loved me, when she''s almost certainly been betraying me. How cruel is that? She doesn''t deserve me, that''s for sure, but this hurts beyond words - every second my head is full of memories and they just won''t stop.