A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

Do you need help sorting out a fair financial settlement?

Our consultant service offers expert advice and support to help you reach agreement on a fair financial settlement quickly, and for less than a quarter of the cost of using a traditional high street solicitor.


I feel so broken....

  • leftwondering
  • leftwondering's Avatar Posted by
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
01 May 12 #327710 by leftwondering
Topic started by leftwondering
Yesterday my wife phoned up about something.
It was amazing to hear her voice again.
I still love her so much.
She was laughing and telling me how much she loved this guy and would always be with him.

No mention of the 30+ years we''ve been together.

I never knew life could be so cruel.
When I was 30 I always imagined my life to be settled with kids and happy by the time I was 60.

I just feel broken now with no reason to go on.
I feel so alone and need a cuddle from her.
I never knew life could be so bad.

LW

  • WhiteRose
  • WhiteRose's Avatar
  • Moderator
  • Moderator
More
01 May 12 #327726 by WhiteRose
Reply from WhiteRose
Hugs LW,

First thing I thought when I read this post was - ''Heartbreaking'' then secondly I thought What an insensitive woman!

What a thing to say - even in my situation - where I am fairly civil/amicable with my ex - I would never say that to him :ohmy:

It quite brutal and incredibly thoughtless or cruel.

Its an old cliche - but time will heal your pain.

Just make sure you take care of yourself!

WR x

  • Canuck425
  • Canuck425's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
01 May 12 #327746 by Canuck425
Reply from Canuck425
Why did you put up with this? Did you tell her that you don''t want to hear about her new man? Did you tell her how incredibly hurtful and stupid her words are? Did you then hang up on her?

Take a stand for yourself on this.

  • leftwondering
  • leftwondering's Avatar Posted by
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
01 May 12 #327772 by leftwondering
Reply from leftwondering
I need Haway to give me the 2x4 big stick and knock some sense into me.
I am losing it here and need to get back to the person I used to be before I met her.

I am really on a downer right now....help
I cant take this anymore.

I love her so much.

LW

  • stepper
  • stepper's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
01 May 12 #327775 by stepper
Reply from stepper
Kick her into touch leftwondering!

She sounds as though she has all the sensitivity of a block of wood.

My son is going through the family courts to try and obtain a 50/50 residence order. His children are his only concern.

It doesn''t stop his ex. constantly raising the issue that none of us like her partner. None of us care - its her life not ours.

Sorry about that little rant.

  • u6c00
  • u6c00's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
01 May 12 #327781 by u6c00
Reply from u6c00
It sounds like you do need a cuddle but definitely not from her.

She doesn''t deserve someone as decent as you, and you sure as hell don''t deserve someone as callous as her.

My ex did the same to me, and that''s what people told me. It really didn''t take long before I believed it, and saw it for what it was - an attempt to hurt me from a callous malicious.... person. (Damn the censoring!)

Nowadays my opinion is different. People tell me ''it''ll never last'' and I tell them that I hope it does. I don''t care if she''s happy, but I want my son to have a stable home with her. I hope she does stay with him forever, rather than porting the kids from bloke to bloke.

Don''t take any of her crap leftwondering. You don''t have to get nasty about it, and don''t lower yourself to her level. Just do as Canuck said: "I don''t want to know about it right now thank you" then hang up if she won''t stop talking about it.

  • leftwondering
  • leftwondering's Avatar Posted by
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
01 May 12 #327785 by leftwondering
Reply from leftwondering
God... I would love a cuddle from a nice, decent woman right now...really...

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11