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03 May 12 #328240 by hawaythelads
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Why don''t you reply Thus:-
Look you cxxt,
If I want to discuss arrangements for seeing my son.
It will only be with his pxss poor excuse,self obseessed,failed rock star wannabee father... not you.... you fecking marriage wrecking whxxx capiche?
Are you catching my drift?...... you slack drawered bucket cxxx.

You see you only get one life and one things for certain.One day you''ll be dead!!
So why the feck does everyone follow this total and utter rubbish belief that you can''t say what you really need to say to someone who''s turned you over.
You might as well give them a right load of shxt.They''ve treated you like shxt.All this you must be reasonable and polite.Boolox that''s what I say.Oh you''ve just taken a nice big dump on my head thank you for that would you like to take another?Bollox that''s what people advocate on here with this be dignified and keep swallowing ***** that they advocate.They can''t shxt on you no worse it''s the supreesing all the anger and being civilised and polite that fecks everyone up rather than fecking giving it to em both barrels when they deserve it.Make people think feck me I''d better not feck with him he''s nuts.That''s a lot better than everyone taking the pxss out of you.
Just send it my reply what have you got to lose?You won''t lose your dignity ....you lose it every time you don''t stand up for yourself not when you do give it.You''re saying here''s my fecking boundaries if you choose to cross them I''ll fecking bite your head off.
I''d reply to her every time after that when she emailed me Feck off marriage wrecking whxre.That would pxss em right off.
It''s not going to effect any financial outcome there''s sod all marital assets as such and he ducking out of paying for the kid anyway so treat them with the respect thet deserve.
You only get one life and you''re a long time dead and even if you do get reincarnated you won''t remember this one anyway.So you might as well give it some.
All the best
His Royal Hawayness xx

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03 May 12 #328245 by Emma8485
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Actually I like Petes idea! :lol::lol::lol:


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03 May 12 #328276 by Ekaterine
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Best laugh I''ve had all day reading Haway''s reply.
Wish I''d sent a reply like that to my ex''s OW''s emails. Instead I replied directly to him. Then when the emails kept coming I learnt the power of the delete button. Then you have to quickly go to the deleted file and empty that in case you get tempted to look later. It took a whole load of will-power to not read them as I am a naturally nosey person, but it also gave me a real good feeling that she had spent all that effort tap-tap-tapping away furiously and her words disappeared into nothingness as nobody ever read them, ha ha.

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04 May 12 #328295 by Emma8485
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I may rant now and I am sorry! Why do new partners think they have the right exactly to dictate where kids are concerned?

I have the most wonderful fiance, he has had his own battles and he totally gets the parent and child relationship - he has never once interfered with my ex and our children - despite the fact that he has a fantastic relationship with my kids and my ex is an ar** most of the time - any time they mention him he is supportive, positive and says "have a great time with your dad see you when you get back" - same as I do.

No new partner should be so insecure that they feel the need to take control of the relationship with the ex - its quite sad really!!!


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04 May 12 #328301 by stepper
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I like Pete''s attitude too, but it is not that simple to put into practice.

My ex. dil has been so vile to my son that I would prefer to have nothing to do with her whatsoever. In reality though, the change over with the children is at my house and there is a Court case for 50/50 residence ongoing so politeness is absolutely essential.

If I really told her what I though of her, she would use it to try and reduce contact between the children and their dad, using the unpleasant mother-in-law as an excuse for the change overs not working.

Pete is quite right about anger being suppressed. It affects my husband more than me. He keeps saying Karma, but it isn''t coming quick enough for him.

When there are children involved you just have to grit your teeth and press on. It certainly affects the blood pressure though!

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04 May 12 #328302 by flowerofscotland
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Hi perin123,

Rise above it. Laugh! How pathetic can these OW get?

She is trying so desperately hard to ''mark her territory'', getting the message across to you that he, your X, is under her command. He is her''s now.

Let me tell you, deep down she is petrified, so scared that eventually he will do to her what he sadly did to you...you will always be a thorn in her side. These OW are just pathetic, they really are. Thinking that they know what is best all round and that they can manipulate people...tell her to take a running jump off the nearest cliff.

Take the high road perin123, ignore her e-mails, as they say ''delete''! Unless of course she has been demoted by your X from OW to secretary?

She is not the father of your son, his father is. Any communication with you is down to him. He is just a pathetic excuse...

Stay strong and one day, never forget, you will have the last laugh....

Take care for now FoS x

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04 May 12 #328469 by perin123
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So I sent an email to ex, firm but still civil, saying we should all move on and stop cancelling contact cos of gigs and my son is the most important thing.

The reply was as predicted,awful.

Ex slated me as a mother, unsuitable,uncaring, no idea how my son feels. He never loved me,ever,and I need professional help. Oh and I need to let him go, it''s over!!!

I was upset,angry and I laughed!

I am speechless......:dry:

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