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Fed up with OW

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03 May 12 #328147 by maisymoos
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I think the way Perin has described how the email was worded that would not be the case. The OW making contact is just not acceptable, talk about rubbing salt into a wound!

I would personally send an email back saying that she will only communicate with her ex and not third parties in relation to her son/contact arrangements etc.

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03 May 12 #328151 by somuch2know2
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Hmmmm.. that is a bit nasty.
Just play it cool
They say there is a fine line between love and hate- the goal in divorce is indifference.

... Say thanks for the information and keeping you in the loop and wish her luck. Let her contact you all she wants and just give cool calculated responses... If she isnt winding you up, contact will end.

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03 May 12 #328156 by perin123
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Somuch, if you had read the emails and texts that I have received from OW you would know exactly what I am going through. She has to be in control, and I am sorry but this is my son. I know her and ex are now together, I do not have a problem there, but I do have a problem with her telling me what I am doing and constantly changing contact arrangements to suit my ex and his gigs. His son should come first.

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03 May 12 #328172 by Stingrayj
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You know what you have to do.....next time you receive an email from her press delete.
Don''t even bother reading it!
You have tried so hard for your son for long enough. Let that pathetic ex of yours grow some balls and do what he should be doing himself. If your son wants to see him he will. xx

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03 May 12 #328177 by Crumpled
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Hi do what i have done with other annoying people who email me divert her email address directly to spam so you dont even have to see it if you dont want to

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03 May 12 #328215 by MrsMathsisfun
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Livingtheday. That was exactly what I was going to suggest!

So when dad turns up to contact at the wrong time you can just say sorry but didnt get any email from you and you wont be lying!!

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03 May 12 #328238 by Emma8485
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I had my ex husbands new partner call me while he was in hospital recently. She said she wanted to keep me informed, and I was taken in by this. She said she would love to surprise him on the day he came home by having the girls as normal, and would I mind dropping them off with her.

It was a bit odd, but I admired her for calling me and was pleased that she thought I should be kept in the loop as she seemed very reasonable - more than my ex!

Three days later he was ranting at me saying Id made her feel pressured into taking the girls, when I offered to show him the texts and told him she called me and offered, he called me a liar.

My SMS message to him then read

"I will no longer have any discussion about our children with anyone other than you. If I recieve any contact from any other person it will be deleted without opening and therefore the content will not be read. Therefore any arrangements that are made by anyone other than you will not stand"

I was raging that she had the audacity to do it, probably very insecure about the fact that we had started to get on quite well - she neednt be as I am getting re married and adore my fiance!

It hasnt happened again!


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