decree nisi

I have had the certificate telling me Decree Nisi will be heard on 18th May and that judge has ordered the b.....d to pay costs. he has previously indicated he will only pay 50% despite him sc.....g another woman, him not trying to make our marriage work when we had agreed that was what we wanted - only I wanted it as it turned out - he couldn.t resist her!!, him walking out on me, him telling me in the fullness of time I will realise this is all my fault.

My solicitor says if he contests the ruling I will have to appear in court - I have to self rep as money tight and he is a lawyer as is his s..g.

I am back to where I was twelve months ago. I never wanted any of this and yet I am the one who is crying buckets and who is living in hell. Just when I thought things were getting better.

What are your grounds ? Adultery ? Has he admitted it ?

Normally if he''s admitted adultery he would be ordered to pay the costs, lawyer or no. But costs are always at the discretion of the Court.

I''d say it''s hardly worth the expense of hiring a lawyer for the money involved, but if there is admitted adultery, he should expect to pay your costs if you find it intolerable to live with him any more.

It may not cost him directly to self rep, but there is always the issue of loss of remunerative time. I think there''s a pretty good chance of your getting the costs even if you self rep.

What does your solicitor think ?

LMM

I too had my certificate...mine is being read tomorrow!...my ex is paying costs im the respndant...he has based it unreasonable behaviour lies lies and more lies....he knows i would of fought him in court and won...he was violent and its always swept under the carpet!

Hi LMM

My solicitor says that he can refuse to pay full costs hence he will have to appear in court to say why he should only pay 50% and I will have to go to put my case for full costs.

He is obsessed with money and will never want to give me more than 50% of anything despite adultery being the reason for this - and yet he has admitted it and I''ve named her as the co-respondant.