Jealousy

Simple - or perhaps not - question, really: how do you cope with it when it overwhelms you?

You do nothing John.
When you ain''t in control of any feeling in your head remember literally do nothing.Sit in a chair in your house and let it pass.
It''s the irrational actions that if you do anything will get you in trouble.
You just have to rationalise it in your head.I talk to myself out loud to rationalise things.Like the out loud voice is reality to talk to my irrational internal voice in my head.
Why I am getting all depressed and jealous about a bird who thought so little about me she dumped me by text?
Should be your little mad man chat when you need to calm down your irrational mental state.
See bet your feeling better already.
All the best
HRH xx

Thanks, Haway. I am as mad as bloody hell - here was me thinking she had principles and morals. Yeah, right. Miss her but don''t like her at all as a person now.

John.

That is fantastic advice Haway.

I am prone to ''rehearsing'' in my head what I would say if I could. I tend to repeat the same phrases over and over in my head. I think saying it out loud would probably stop me being such a loon in my head!

Thanks very much!

When the emotions overwhelm you do as Haway says.

To get the emotions under control you might also try writing it all down. I scribbled like a woman possessed to get it all down. It just tumbled out any old how in scribble, in capitals, with underlining, circling, arrows and crossings out, just pages of it. What he said, what I said, what I wished I''d said/done etc etc. It helped me a lot.

Take the advice of the GP too.

johnt153 wrote:

here was me thinking she had principles and morals.

Guess we''ve all made this mistake at some stage...she doesn''t she''s crapped on you and you shouldn''t waste your emotions on her.

LB

Thank you all. John.