You have some great advice here. I''m afraid no-one can say how long it lasts. I remember sobbing for the first couple of months (even sobbed all through bridesmaids on a girls night out!) then having a couple of months with no crying, now the Absolute is due and everything is so final I often find myself crying again.
It''s the loss of the family unit that I seriously struggle with. I hate what he has put the kids through. They''ll never be the same kids again and I don''t like sharing them and not seeing them for days on end. But I have to accept the situation and hope for the best, it''s all we can do at the end of the day.
I have found this place an absolute life saver and am looking forward to meeting up with some people off here soon. Keep busy, keep talking and making friends, you will get there.
I can only reiterate what everyone else has said. It is very early days for you so don''t be hard on yourself, if you weren''t so upset then that shows she didn''t mean anything to you. It''s tough, but you will get through.
When? Well, how long is a piece of string? That is a question no one can answer as everyone is different and deals with things in their own way.
Keep posting on here, go into chat, honestly it will cheer you up and the support and advice you will get on here is unmeasurable.
I completely understand what you are going through. I get chocked nearly every day and it''s been over two months, but I must add that the tearfulness is not so prolonged nowadays - I think that as the others have said, everbody is different and there is no set timscale. I know that I have still yet to face my darkest days, but I also know that one day there will be "broad sunlit uplands" and every day takes me closer. All I got for my 24 years (half my life) was a phone call whilst I was at work to say "I am off", and then another phone call to say the marriage is over - I have never received a face to face statement. Although we talk and sometimes see one another for a few minutes here and there, the cut is still deep and raw, but like all wounds it will heal in time..
Keep busy, and go day to day, bitesize chunks that are easy to manage, see friends, talk to relatives, even yourself if necessary - a good cry and a good chat helps me tremendously and I am not "soft" man by no means, but I realise it has got to be released and this is my way, maybe yours as well..
Look after yourself my friend and remember, no one is really alone with sites like this... Take care!!