I have had a really bad week emotionally. Won''t bore you witht he details because the reason for posting is to confess. I have sent an email to every one of my b....rd husband''s partners plus loads of other people in his office telling them the truth about our marriage split - his affair, screwing his sl.g on her office desk,lies, walking out, treating me like dirt etc. etc. I don''t do regret but I fear I may live to regret this?
Why can''t I keep control when it really matters?
so you done it, so what!!
you can''t change it.
what are the people going to do?
what do other people really care?
what matters is YOU and yours, family and friends who will support you at this awlful time.
you are allowed to discuss and share your pain.
oophs sorry judge, you showed your anger and it was inappropriate
don''t dwell on it
you will get better at controlling your anger and how you react
what you have done is normal and mild!
maybe someone should start a thread on revenge, then you would see.
focus on what you are going to do and forget the actions of someone who couldn''t keep it in his pants (as Jeremy Kyle says!)
sometimes it is good to write things down to get rid of the anger, but not advisable to send until you have really thought about it.
so you made an error, move on, we are only human, all humans make errors.(I made one by marrying someone I loved, won''t do it again in a hurry).
Try not to worry about it. It''s so hard to have them walking around putting on an act and no one knowing the truth. I wanted everyone to know what he''d done, I even told mums from the kids school that I didn''t know very well.
Also 2 days after my discovery and the day he left to stay at a mates, I logged into his Facebook account and changed his ''about me''. I wrote something along the lines of ''I''m a useless selfish waste of space who instead of enjoying time with my wife and kids likes to lay around on the sofa all day watching rubbish tv and texting women from work sexual things''!! I can still remember my sister ringing me up going erm, d... Has written something on Facebook! Hilarious it was and it did make me feel better. Not my most grown up moment but hey.
It''s happened, try not to worry about it. He deserved it and no one will think anything bad of you.
hey you did something that at the time you thought was a good idea so what good on ya x any fall out from it ? so what if there is what about all the fall out and the ripple effect of what he did ? did he care of who he''d hurt ? did he hell did it make you feel good for a short while ? yes ? then good for you x
when i caught my stbx in his office after work hours with his bit on the side s..g, b...h, whatever who was also married well i got a bit mad !! while on the company cctv i ranted and raved i keyed his company 4x4 (and do you know what he did ? well he hid it and told his boss he''d had problems with some kids and they keyed it !!!! lol but i made sure the truth got out to his work mates and then i went to s..gs house knocked on her front door and told her husband , do i regret it no , my only regret is that i didnt knock her lights out! and the reason i did this is because the first time he played around and cheated on me i did nothing !!!
What is done is done, & tbh you needed to get it out of your system & honestly there is no going back on what was said now - so don''t beat yourself up about it.
Having said all this, I would perhaps write things down in a diary / paper or in notes on your computer to keep for your eyes only in future or at least sleep on it before sending again.
It is hard just holding it all in especially when you have been hurt as much as you have, sometimes I have vented to friends (joint) & thought better of it afterwards but heyho cannot do anything once the sent button has been pressed.
I would just sit back & leave it now, get on with things as normal & play down any reprocussions.