A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

Do you need help sorting out a fair financial settlement?

Our consultant service offers expert advice and support to help you reach agreement on a fair financial settlement quickly, and for less than a quarter of the cost of using a traditional high street solicitor.


mistake???

  • Hacked Off
  • Hacked Off's Avatar
  • Elite Member
  • Elite Member
More
17 May 12 #331280 by Hacked Off
Reply from Hacked Off
Good on ya Yellow Rose!

My ex wife has a new boyfriend and I found his email address on his website (very successful business man). I am sorely tempted to email him and tell him, not about my wife''s cheating during our less than 2 year marriage(with two men at the same time), but about her dragging me to court and shafting me for money (she only got half of what she wanted!), incurring heavy legal fees for both of us, refusing mediation etc.
I''d like to warn him not to let her move in with him (co-habiting rights are to become law I believe) or she might do the same to him and also tell him, for God''s sake dont marry the bi*ch, she will seriously damage your wealth. He is loaded and single. Poor sod. I know for a fact she has told people that we had an ''amicable divorce'' Such a lying cow!!!

  • sun flower
  • sun flower's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
17 May 12 #331300 by sun flower
Reply from sun flower
I hope the repercussions are not too bad.

...and that one day you look back and say to yourself ''well done girl'' cos that is what I am saying.

They have callously ridden roughshod over our lives. If we can do a our tiny bit to redress the balance then perhaps it is our duty:P

But you''ve done it once - a second time might be a mistake.

But well done, walk tall, none of us know what we can do until we get there. sc

  • Canuck425
  • Canuck425's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
18 May 12 #331318 by Canuck425
Reply from Canuck425
I think this is a time when you have to be kind to yourself. To be forgiving of yourself. If you don''t always take the high road or act as you wish then accept that and move on.

I also think you need to focus on you and not him. Easy for me to say! Focus on making your life awesome. The it won''t really matter if he is happy or not. You just won''t care.

Take good care of you.

  • sun flower
  • sun flower's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
18 May 12 #331476 by sun flower
Reply from sun flower
2 thoughts - something of a record at the moment - I hope I can remember them as I type!

1. Oh I think you should do that Hacked off - very tempting (don''t for goodness sake follow my advice though)...but so tempting ....and then, if you wouldn''t mind let me have the address of the rich available gullible man - there seems to be a dearth of them - I wonder why! Applicants need apply to sc etc - pension rights, gullibility and and fatal health problems will all be taken into account! (I know, I shouldn''t - and sorry Canuck - it is really no laughing matter.)

2. Yellow Rose One day - one of the people who know about your antics, and who are currently laughing at you will remember you, and wish they had the guts to do what you did. As I say hold your head up high strong lady.

  • Marshy_
  • Marshy_'s Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
19 May 12 #331675 by Marshy_
Reply from Marshy_
I wouldnt beat yrself up about it yellowrose. Yr not the 1st and you wont be the last.

What is done is done. But when you hit send how did you feel? If you felt good then it was worth it. Of course you know it was wrong todo it. But nothing will happen. Its not like you went and dumped a lorry full of manuir outside his office is it now.

Just chalk it up and forget it. C.

  • yellowrose
  • yellowrose's Avatar Posted by
  • Elite Member
  • Elite Member
More
20 May 12 #331699 by yellowrose
Reply from yellowrose
Thanks Marshy
I felt good. I''ve thought about it since and I would do it again if I could turn back time. She is threatening to sue for defamation and Libel. Haven''t received his threats yet! Will have to see what happens.
thanks. xxxxx

  • Hacked Off
  • Hacked Off's Avatar
  • Elite Member
  • Elite Member
More
20 May 12 #331719 by Hacked Off
Reply from Hacked Off
Yellow Rose - dont worry about threats of defamation and libel. Unless the other woman has a big pot of cash, it wont happen. Also, what could she expect to gain from you financially unless YOU have a lot of cash!

Just a knee jerk reaction from her. It will all die down and be forgotten. Good on ya though, if it made you feel better.

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11