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I miss her sooo much

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17 May 12 #331250 by johnt153
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Where has my babe gone

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17 May 12 #331276 by Hacked Off
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Hi John. Sorry that she''s gone mate. Many of us know the feeling. I had a blip myself the other day even though I''m two years down the line. Only reason was because some well meaning person decided to update me on my ex wifes new, highly successful boyfriend. Got past that now. Life goes on John. What you have to come to terms with is that the woman you thought you knew and loved doesnt really exist anymore. Dont want to intrude on your grief but what was her history - was she ever married? Was she always the one to leave relationships? If she has never been hurt/dumped there''s probably a clue there somewhere. I think one of your recent posts mentioned that right up until the end she led you to believe that she wanted to marry you? Nasty. We all suffer a great big dose of disillusionment when the love of our life leaves us because we know they didnt care about us as much as we cared about them. As one wise person on Wiki said..''There are givers and takers.'' Most of us on here were ''givers''. Hopefully you are looking after yourself. Back working? You must use distraction techniques to stop yourself obsessing about her. Your health and emotional well-meaning are more important than her. In time you will come to that conclusion yourself. You cant change whats happened. Acceptance is the only way to go.

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17 May 12 #331282 by raybird
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your still in shock, you will be for a few weeks, but it will slowly pass, try to keep busy, maybe see your dr, see what they can suggest, everything your feeling ive been through, in fact all of us on here have been through, pm me any time, take care xxxxxxxxxxxx

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18 May 12 #331314 by Canuck425
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Take your time. Be sad. Be kind to yourself. All the same advice. You''ll be fine. You''ll learn from this. And be stronger.

I do still want to hear about your daughter though! When do you get to see her again? Tell me a funny story about her.

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18 May 12 #331324 by johnt153
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Hello all,

Feeling slightly better after a surprisingly good sleep. There''s a tiny, rational part of me that''s starting to say that this is her loss. Alright, I don''t have much but I''m a decent bloke and she''d have to invent complaints about my treatment of her. She''s no guarantee of that again.

Hacked Off - yes, she was previously married and she left him, and as I understand boyfriends before and after (until she met me and would never dream of parting, of course). You''re bang on with this train of thought.

Canuck - have my daughter tonight, thank God! She did make me laugh recently when, during an episode of Corrie in which people were arguing, she jumped up and started flapping her hands up and down in front of the TV, telling them to ''Take it easy, take it easy''! She''s my little princess.

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18 May 12 #331327 by hawaythelads
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John

Get a grip mate.
You''ve just said she has a track record for having affairs and moving on.
Thank feck you didn''t really mug yourself up by marrying it.
Build a bridge and get over it.

All. The best

HRH XX

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18 May 12 #331348 by johnt153
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Cheers, Pete - sometimes I need a bit of a eye-opening kick :)

John

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