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20 May 12 #331711 by johnt153
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Had a dip last night and texted her to merely ask if her move home had went well. Received a call from an unknown no - OM, telling me that they''d been together for weeks and to eff off. Shocked, I called her and was told she loved him, had slept with him and never wanted to talk again. Just three weeks ago we were supposedly in love. I am in bits and cannot take any more.

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20 May 12 #331716 by MrsMathsisfun
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Oh John, I am sorry but you have to begin to accept its over and start to let go.

Its hard. It hurts but dont make contact.

Delete her number (and dont write it down somewhere just in case which is what I did!!) Delete his number.

When it gets tough, come on wiki and say help.

You will survive and life will go on.

x

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20 May 12 #331721 by raybird
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bit of a shocker, that one, but i echo mathisfun, no contact, youve got to think of YOU now, shes gone, be strong and take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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20 May 12 #331722 by johnt153
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I''ve accepted in my head that it''s over but I cannot grasp her cruelty or utter lack of any feeling whatsoever. I thought I knew her. I was so very wrong :(All those years and shared experiences and memories.

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20 May 12 #331727 by raybird
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i no john, we get thrown out with the rubbish, were not needed anymore, were just an inconveiance (think i spelt that wrong) that needs to go away, and go away fast, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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20 May 12 #331728 by soulruler
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Well you don''t know whether your wife asked the OM to phone you or not but either way I personally, and I think many of us on here, would not want to be with a man who so easily decides that he wants to ring up a husband and give him abuse.

Your wife is beginning to sound more and more like a person who you do not need to be around. It sounds to me that you, like so many of us on here me included, have been wearing rose tinted spectacles regarding your wife for a very long time.

Really, really cruel and people don''t turn cruel overnight. She is not going to change but you do have the chance to because of your conscience.

There is a better life. Hang in there and work for it - you are worth it.

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20 May 12 #331739 by johnt153
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Just had a text from the OM reiterating that they love each other and both want me to eff off. Oh my.

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