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Mental Illness?

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21 May 12 #332046 by Wiser
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I don''t know what the words are to describe my ex''s behaviour but it has been suggested today ex is suffering from psychosis. We are divorcedbut I am very concerned for the wellbeing of our children.

I looked it up in the dictionary and it says

mental disorder in which thought and emotions are so impaired that perception of external reality is severely affected.

Has anyone got any clue how to deal with this as ex''s family are not communicating and ex doesn''t have many friends to ask for help - that said, if ex has this disorder, ex would deny it anyway and blame me.

Can ex be helped?

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21 May 12 #332048 by Fiona
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Who suggested he is psychotic and why?

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21 May 12 #332049 by Lostboy67
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Wiser wrote:

but it has been suggested today ex is suffering from psychosis.

Is this suggestion from a suitably qualified medical professional who has examined your ex and made an informed diagnosis?

that said, if ex has this disorder, ex would deny it anyway and blame me.

Ummm so if he admits it then he is psycotic and if he doesn''t then he is in denial...what choice does he have ?


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22 May 12 #332252 by samchik1
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If the definition of psychosis relates to:

"thought and emotions being so impaired that perception of external reality is severely affected"

Then I''d wager that we are all psychotic. Well, I certainly am. Right now my thoughts are impaired. How? I am thinking too much about what my wife did to me...how it is wrong...how I can''t believe it...how it is unjust...how I deserve better...how I want her back...I could go on. But the content of my thoughts is predominantly this stuff...not my normal stuff.

The emotions that accompany those thoughts? Well, powerful anger, devastation, sadness, fear...and god knows what else. These are all experienced at a level of intensity far beyond what I consider to be "normal" - even for me.

So...my thoughts and emotions are impaired right now. Consequently, my perception of external reality is dictated by these thoughts and emotions. Life is unfair, my ex is immoral, the world is a frightening place...yada yada yada.

To a degree, I''m psychotic by that definition...so is my ex (for different reasons). Whether your ex is psychotic in a clinical sense depends on the nature of the "unreality" he is creating.

But as a concept...we are all doing this for most of our lives.

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22 May 12 #332258 by AbsentFather
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Sounds familiar.

The moment my marriage went bad my wife started running around looking for an explanation.

She was daignosed with adjustment disorder and went for counselling but then tried to convince anyone who would listen that I was the one who was mentally ill.

Her counsellor even advised her to stop doing this. Going around questioning other peoples mental health and their ability to parent starts you and the children on a downward spiral.

Before long you will have solicitors throwing counter accusations your way and then CAFCASS and social services will become involved and child psychiatrists will be called in to confirm that the children are suffering.

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