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29 May 12 #333924 by Tracey1971
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Hiya everyone
Have been on here a few weeks as me and my husband were separating although he was living under the same roof as me said he needed space and had got himself into a dark place. Anyway today just had this horrible feeling that there was something else so did a bit of snooping right or wrong I did and guess what found out he was having an affair over 100 emails back and forth to each other, printed them off and called him home from work to confront him and guess what he still told me lies saying it was not him can''t believe how spineless he is being have asked him to just tell me the truth and he just says can''t admit something that is not happening even though I have proof in black and White. He has again turned my whole world upside down again as I thought we could at least stay friends but not now I could never be friends with him again cause friends don''t lie and cheat on each other do they
Anyway just needed to have a rant
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29 May 12 #333928 by robinson25
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its a horrible feeling to be lied to, i think the hardest thing to cope with, my x was such a coward and like yours denied everything. At least you are now fully in the picture, you will have a long hard uncertain future but we are all here to support you so please use us. x

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29 May 12 #333930 by jjones123
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Big hugs to you... Keep posting, and feel free to rant away at any point.


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30 May 12 #333940 by Action
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Hi Tracey

What a familiar tale! I ''snooped'' too and found loads of emails between ex and a hooker in Jakarta. He denied everything but when he realised how much I knew he was gone like a shot - 30+ years of marriage, no apologies - wouldn''t even admit adultery even though he''d kept receipts for condoms and sexy underwear he''d bought for her.

It''s strange this instinct to ''snoop'' - you must have had good reason. Why these people don''t have the decency to put their hands up and admit what they''ve done I will never understand.

Take care and do keep ranting as it''s good therapy and a lot of people on here will genuinely understand where you''re coming from.

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30 May 12 #333947 by Canuck425
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If you don''t have kids then don''t look back. If there are kids in the picture then it''s tougher. You may not be friends but it helps to be friendly.

There are loads of good tips on this site on how to get through the early days. The key is to put yourself first in all ways.

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30 May 12 #333960 by afonleas
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Good morning tracey,
I expect you have not slept much after yesterday but it''s another day and you are still here.
How these cheating people think that they can expect to get away with things and then deny it is beyond me,if you have nerve to have an affair at least admit it when you are caught but no they think turn the tables and try to turn the innocent one into the guilty party,my stbx had both myself and my girls thinking i was going off my trolley but i knew all along and was proven correct,and now when i have all the proof he is still in denial but whatever.
It is good for the mind and soul to have a rant and rave i must admit you do feel better afterwards like yourself i would have liked to have stayed on friendly terms with my ex but his constant lying means i cannot,how can you have a conversation with someone who can look you in the face and lie easier not to have the conversation i think.
Luckily for me my daughters are adults and support me 100% but like canuck said if there are younger children it may prove more difficult but stay strong everybody here for you,and all understand what you are going through,a lot of wiki''s made it through to the other side,myself still a work in progress but i know i will get there also and i''m confidant a better life awaits.love and cwtches to you :)xxx

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30 May 12 #334152 by Tracey1971
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It''s the day after and anger and hurt is still brewing inside of me I made the mistake of phoning him and asking again for the truth but no he still lied to me I managed to get ow mobile no and sent her a text nothing nasty just telling her a few fact and what they have both done to me and are children guess wot no reply to me that speaks volumes because if someone sent me a text and I was innocent then I would be replying to them. I also found out that he had sent over a 1000 texts in a month to this no and he had the bare faced cheek to say someone else was using his phone had to laugh at that one how stupid does he think I am all I can say that he will regret this as time goes on and he''s not worth knowing if he''s willing to throw away everything including our two lovely kids who have been my rock as they are aged 14 and 18 I do worry a little about my son as it has hit him hard and he says he dosnt wanna know his dad anymore I did say to him that u will change your feelings as time goes on and maybe you can rebuild your relationship with your dad but they are both old enough to decide for themselves and I will stand by them what ever they choose I would never turn them against their dad as he said I am doing but tbh he''s doing that all by himself

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