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02 Jun 12 #334749 by ConfusedDad
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Has anyone taken anti-depressants to help them through this mess and can you offer any advice as to their effectiveness, pros/cons etc?


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02 Jun 12 #334750 by juwelkeeper
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I am taking sertraline 50mg been taking them for 2 weeks , but to be honest i have not really noticed any difference yet. Maybe they will kick in soon.

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02 Jun 12 #334752 by raybird
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im taking citalopram, have been since 2nd jan, or i call them `chill`pills, they really have helped me a great deal, i no longer have anxiety attacks, my appetite came back, slowly, and my sleep is getting back to normal xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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02 Jun 12 #334753 by afonleas
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When this ordeal started iwent to my gp who was not agreeable to give me antidepressents she would only prescribe zopiclone to help me sleep,and i only could have that for short while,ok they knocked me out but only for a few hours but at least i got enough sleep to tide me over.
I work as a mental health nurse so did not want to go down the antidepressent path unless i had to so decided to try st johns wort,ok they take a while to kick in but they worked in my case now don''t take anything,i''m not advocating either way up to the individual and their gp but i firmly believe you have to go through the pain to come through the other side it is hard and some days all i done was cry and if i''m truthful still cry at least once a day but what am i crying for? i honestly cannot tell you !!!
take care

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02 Jun 12 #334762 by Lostboy67
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Hi CD,
Well I''ll put my hand up on this one. I''ve been taking citalopram for nearly a year now and they have been very effective.
I''ll give some insights that I found out, first they can have some side effects which are not so great but nothing too terrible.
But remember the following
1) They are not a quick fix, they can take several weeks to become effective, its important to stick with them and also review dose levels with your GP
2) Its not a case of taking one and immediatly feeling better, they are not ''happy pills''
3) On their own they can be effective but it is usually best to combine them with talking therapies such as CBT
4) There are different ones available, you may need to try several different ones to find the right one for you
5) The first two weeks on them can feel worse than ever, but stick with them
6) The don''t remove the underlying reasons that lead to your illness, you need to take additional steps to address these reasons.
7) Modern ADs (SSRIs) do not have dependancy issues of older types)

As for the pros, they can help you recover from your illness, but they are part of the solution. Cons....with the exception of minor side effects none.

It can feel like a big step to take that first AD, but if you are asking about their effectivenes then that suggests that perhaps you may need them. It takes a hell of a lot of courage to go to your GP to get diagnosed with depression and prescribed ADs, I know how tough it is having been there and done it myself. BUT depression is an illness and there are treatments, but you''ve got to go and ask for them. Like you I have children and you owe it to them and yourself to get help if you need it.

If you want to PM me I can offer more insite to my experiance with ADs and depression.

Take care

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02 Jun 12 #334764 by sun flower
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Mirtazapine for me...max dose made me feel not quite attached to the world ...but two thirds of the dose are great .....I hated idea of them, and was loathe to take them as I had had reactions to other drugs in the past because of underlying problem...My gp pointed out to me that best way to help my kids was to help myself. Now I wouldn''t be without them....for now. I would not say yes or no to you - but this was my experience....trust your instincts....and the opinions of those around you. Any which way, I hope you feel better soon.

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03 Jun 12 #334773 by Bernie58
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AD''s have their place in things that can help you. If you feel at absolutely rock bottom then they are worth trying. Especially if you have kids you need to cope and you must look after yourself to be able to do this. And hopefully to make you feel a bit better as well!
Taking medication is not a sign of weakness but sometimes of strength in that you accept you need help.
I take amitriptiline one of the older tricyclic AD''s and it is a godsend. Enables me to sleep well feel calmer during the day and helps with chronic pain.
I know there are concerns that AD''s can be addictive. The general advice is to reduce dose very gradually when you are ready to come off so your body does not feel any difference.
Best wishes to you

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