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The thought of never being with them again

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05 Jun 12 #335207 by juwelkeeper
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Been a month now since my x left in the middle of the night.
I am a lot better now than i was at the start although i still have very low moments throughout the day.
The saddest part for me at the moment is knowing that i will never be with or see my x ever again and i am finding that bit really hard to sink in.
I loved her so much still do stupidly and would still take her back ,but know that won''t happen.
God this rollercoaster is hell just when you think everything is getting better you just slip back to into depression again.
Seeing a counsellor soon so hoping that helps.

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05 Jun 12 #335210 by yellowrose
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Hi jewelkeeper

I am a year on from you. My basta.d husband left me in the middle of the night as well without a word.

I too loved him then and would have taken him back in ana instant despite the way he treated me. Then two weeks later as he told my children that he had left and they cried (both adult males) my love turned to hate and over the last year his behaviour toward me has got worse and worse. I do not know the monster he has become.

I am still incredibly sad at times and my heart grieves for what I have lost, but ever so slowly I am getting better. I truly believe that one day I will find someone better than him who I will love and trust and that my life in the future will be better without him. He is a basta.d and I deserve better. The sl.g he is with is no better than him and one day I know I will not even think about them.

Feel your pain. Cry and shout and screamwhen you feel like it. Don''t pretend it''s O.K whe3n it''s not and one day you will notice that you too are ever so slowly getting better. It takes a long time but it does happen.

Stay strong.

YR xxxxxxxxxxx

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05 Jun 12 #335212 by juwelkeeper
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She has not contacted me for 3 weeks which is good because i don''t want any contact.
She has not been nasty yet but no doubt that could change we will have to see on that one.
Not nice is it YR when they just uproot in the middle of the night while your still asleep.
It''s the shock at first i could have easly ended it all during those first 2 weeks.

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05 Jun 12 #335214 by afonleas
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Evening juwel,
like i told you while chatting it all seems
as though she had premeditated all of her actions.
What she done was despicable if you are going to leave have the balls to do it face to face not sneak around like theives in the night,but hey they are theives they steal your heart and soul without any thought!!!
Will not lie going to a long hard path you will tread but you are not alone.
We all here for each other at all times someone here day and night for both the laughter and the tears.
take care
luv and cwtchs.............afon

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05 Jun 12 #335215 by juwelkeeper
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Thanks AF this site is certainly a life saver and a great comfort in hard times.

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05 Jun 12 #335216 by afonleas
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YES YOU RIGHT BOUT THE SITE,
METHINKS YOU WILL BE OK EVEN YOU
DON''T THINK SO NOW!
TAKE CARE ;)
CATCH YOU AGAIN
LUV AND CWTCHS:) ............AFON

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06 Jun 12 #335315 by toto1978
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juwelkeeper wrote:

Been a month now since my x left in the middle of the night.
I am a lot better now than i was at the start although i still have very low moments throughout the day.
The saddest part for me at the moment is knowing that i will never be with or see my x ever again and i am finding that bit really hard to sink in.
I loved her so much still do stupidly and would still take her back ,but know that won''t happen.
God this rollercoaster is hell just when you think everything is getting better you just slip back to into depression again.
Seeing a counsellor soon so hoping that helps.




i can relate to all that, we were together 18years and have been apart 1 year now,i dont feel remotely better and find every day a struggle.As you say, the thought of not being with them seeing them ever again is not a good one.I hope you start to experience a few okish days soon as i think for now thats all we can expect.

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