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09 Jun 12 #335845 by blonde cazza
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I feel like ive gone back to square one.
For the last few weeks ive woken up in the early hours thinking about things.I remember the horrible things that my ex said to me whe we first seperated i think those words will stick in my head forever..
I remember how he threw down a strimmer when i asked for a divorce and the look in his eyes.
16 months on hes still so angry wont talk,wont even come to the front door of my house.
I feel for our kids our daughter is doing all sorts of bad behaviour...harrassing my friends and family...my son was questioned by both my stbx and daughter to who is in our house and ive recently learned that my husband followed me when we were together checking my car was at the gym..
When does this kind of behaviour stop?.
My ex quite clearly thinks that ive met someone else but that is not the case at all and i dread the day i let someone in my life incase they continue doing this.
When do your exs move on because all this is starting to get me down down!:(
My Absolute should be through in a couple of weeks.I thought moving would give me some piece of mind but its not.

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09 Jun 12 #335902 by Canuck425
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For me it is the mean things that have been said that I find the toughest. I can handle the affair, the lack of support during cancer, all of that but the hurtful words I just cannot get rid of. So I know what you mean.

You can only controls what you do. So stand up and continue on. Maybe you''ll date and maybe you won''t. It really is none of his business. Have fun! For me, I have been casually dating and having fun. Someone asked me if I wanted to get married again and I almost choked. No way!

Hang in there, you''ll be fine.

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10 Jun 12 #335946 by blonde cazza
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You are so right when you say its the mean words.They still haunt me nearly 17 months on!
You have probably read some of my posts and know my story.My daughter is bullemic and tried to convince my ex that i was having an affair which he can see now isnt true because im still single.
Although ive been on a couple of dates i cant let them in Canuck because im frightened to trust again.
When my ex and i first split he told me over the phone in a room full of people he didnt love me and then when i went quiet said ive told her now.If that wasnt bad enough quizes his own child on things that are going on in my life.
Its the horrible things hes done as well last year he came into the fhm and turned off the gas so his son and i froze...its beyond belief.
My ex was married before and i was there for him through his divorce even paid his fee for him so the way hes treating me is horrible...
How do you move on from that?

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10 Jun 12 #335947 by Canuck425
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You move on by focusing on you. It really is that simple. Put yourself first. Know that all the mean things they have said are utter crap. I''ve heard some doozies. "you''re nothing but a paycheque", "I learned that sex can actually be good", "there is nothing lovable about you", and on. All garbage.

I''ll be fine. Actually, I''ll be awesome ;)!

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10 Jun 12 #335948 by blonde cazza
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you will be fine Canuck and i must say i do find it amazing everything you have been through!..

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10 Jun 12 #335950 by afonleas
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Canuck you are the man
your love for your kids
your love for life
bottleit and make a fortune;)

cazza come on my sweetheart
you was more positive last night
about NM he treats you as you deserve to be treated so give him a go.
although find the ex thing creepy
although you did make me laugh
The words that hit you with knock all the stuffing out of you,and rip your soul out, but attack is the best form of defence
so they getting it in first.
We are letting them win by revisting these horrible conversations that we had.

It is a case of survival is the fittest and they are stronger than us if we allow them to be,so we should all pick ourselves up dust ourselves down and beat the crap out of them by being HAPPY!!WE DESERVE IT.

LUV AND CWTCHS ...............AFON XX

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10 Jun 12 #335969 by blonde cazza
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I know Afon and you speak some wise words lady.
As being half welsh i know i have the fight in me just got to start showing it.
I know ive been through worse things than this and ill know ill get there! :)xxxx
When im next in wales be good to meet for coffee...xx

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