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13 Jun 12 #336594 by redwine47
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married 23 years to a s**t..... Left a gd job to be with children while he furthered career. He was verbally abusive to me & beat our children. I left him 2 half years ago and now today in court he is fighting for 60% of our assets. (see previous post)..

I have not much fight left in me..... so tired all I want is fairness for me and my boy''s and to secure employment.

Should I give in?

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13 Jun 12 #336605 by Nota
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Only you can decide that.

If it was me, hell no....I wouldn''t give him the satisfaction.
Fight left in me or not. I''d be fighting for our kids, not me.

If you do carry on, you will find the inner strength from somewhere.
Good luck.

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13 Jun 12 #336610 by redwine47
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Thanks for the support I''m a fighter at heart as most of us are?.. but energy depleting. I just wish courts in Ancillary Relief proceedings took this disgusting behaviour into consideration.

I left him to protect myself and children & feel getting punished financially in doing so. X.

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13 Jun 12 #336614 by Lostboy67
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Hi Red,
Don''t underestimate yourself, a 60:40 split in his favour doesn''t seem in anyway fair, if anything it should be the other way around.

As for giving in, you need to concider what you have to lose or gain and how this stacks up against the costs. Sorry I can''t help you with that one, but don''t be bullied and ground down into giving up

LB

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13 Jun 12 #336618 by sun flower
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Red wine - I have read that the power of positive group thought does help...and for this evening I am going to suspend disbelieve and ask you to also.

And, given that, I for one am sending some strength - to make a decision you can live with (and don''t feel coerced into) and the strength to carry it out.

Hugs sc

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13 Jun 12 #336625 by redwine47
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Thanks LB & scary Claire. for ur gd positive vibes. I am trying to take on board.


If I cld forfeit the financial side of things and give my children good childhood memories I wld. rather do this? This person shld be locked away. The more. stories events my children tell me the more depressed I feel shld have known what was going on! But I believed him then! Silly me!

He knows all the right people in the right places As this person stbx has stated to me people will believe him over me. Shi**y situation.
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Actually as I am posting the Positive vibes are coming through I''m gonna fight for my boy''s at least I have their support. That''s worth more than anything xxxxxxxxxx

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13 Jun 12 #336626 by Mitchum
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More positive vibes coming your way redwine. It is exhausting but you know what is just and reasonable for you to be able to build a future for you and the boys. Fight all the way for what you believe in.

The truth is compelling when told with sincerity and a deep love of the children you''re fighting for. Hope the judge is astute and you win the day. xx

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