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17 Jun 12 #337245 by Mrs positive
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I am month fifteen of our split! I found out soon after that he had been having an affair. I can''t get over the betrayal and it''s holding me back. I feel like I am going to have a breakdown sometimes. I want to get counselling but don''t want to go to dr as it will be on medical report and inhibit my working for the nhs! Cam anyone recommend a good form of counselling? Thanks

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17 Jun 12 #337246 by yellowrose
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Hallo and welcome

YOu will find lots of support on here.

I have sent you a PM

YR xxxxxxx

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17 Jun 12 #337274 by startagain
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Good idea counselling hopefully YR PM has put you on the right track but go to www.counselling-directory.org.uk/

I went private, I was in a bad way and needed help fast! I did not know you could get help from doc at that time. I could not afford it 30 quid per session!!! but I just use my overdraft.

Most counsellors do a free session it is important that you feel at ease with the counsellor and there are also counsellors who specialise in different areas. I went to my first counselling 4 week after I found out about my ex''s affair. It was good to talk, but I was a bit all over the place and I felt the counsellor did not deal with this with this and they started to move me on to "talking about my childhood " thing afar 6 or so session, I just wanted help in getting through each hour of the day also I felt they were starting to be judgemental.

A year later I paid for more sessions with a different counsellor, this time I
did my research and I got them to focus on the issues that I had, this went really well I knew what I wanted to get out of the sessions/help I had 8 session and then stopped.

What I am staying is "shop around" if you get a good counsellor it is worth the money this comes from someone who thought counselling was a load of rubbish.

Good luck with the search

Take care

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17 Jun 12 #337284 by sun flower
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oh no - I''d written huge long reply and lost it somehow. I''ll send hugs for now....but I''ll be around again soon. Hang on

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19 Jun 12 #337568 by lily86
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I agree that www.counselling-directory.org.uk is defintely the best place to look.

If you use social media sites then they are also a great way of finding counseller''s that are more local to you.

In the meantime, I volunteer for a women''s organisation (Day of Women) who offer tips on how to recover from divorce and all sorts of other difficult things who might be of some help to you.

All the best!

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