I am month fifteen of our split! I found out soon after that he had been having an affair. I can''t get over the betrayal and it''s holding me back. I feel like I am going to have a breakdown sometimes. I want to get counselling but don''t want to go to dr as it will be on medical report and inhibit my working for the nhs! Cam anyone recommend a good form of counselling? Thanks
I went private, I was in a bad way and needed help fast! I did not know you could get help from doc at that time. I could not afford it 30 quid per session!!! but I just use my overdraft.
Most counsellors do a free session it is important that you feel at ease with the counsellor and there are also counsellors who specialise in different areas. I went to my first counselling 4 week after I found out about my ex''s affair. It was good to talk, but I was a bit all over the place and I felt the counsellor did not deal with this with this and they started to move me on to "talking about my childhood " thing afar 6 or so session, I just wanted help in getting through each hour of the day also I felt they were starting to be judgemental.
A year later I paid for more sessions with a different counsellor, this time I
did my research and I got them to focus on the issues that I had, this went really well I knew what I wanted to get out of the sessions/help I had 8 session and then stopped.
What I am staying is "shop around" if you get a good counsellor it is worth the money this comes from someone who thought counselling was a load of rubbish.