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ex wife''s treatment of new partner

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22 Jun 12 #338452 by hawaythelads
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jellybean78 wrote:

i can''t accept why the OW is always made out to be the bad one- after all it wasn''t my new partner that made the marriage vows to her.



Blunt answer to the point because she knew you was married with kids and still carried on fxxxxxx you behind your wifes back.
Look your an adulteror you ain''t gonna understand you both think it''s ok to lie and cheat and feck each other whilst making a mug out of your wife.
What do you expect to happen the ex wife is going to ***** you both off.

HRH
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22 Jun 12 #338456 by jellybean78
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Isn''t it a shame that no one looks at what a great person my new partner is, (esp how she handles her own child contact with her own ex who did the dirty on her), and everyone thinks my ex wife is faultless...obviously I''m not going to start listing all her faults to justify why I chose to be with someone else, its unnecessary and has nothing to do with my original concern.

@hawaythelads- there was no f******** going on behind my wife''s back.
She knew I was leaving.
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22 Jun 12 #338459 by fairylandtime
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Jellybean

We all have our own perception of events,

Perhaps your ex-wife did not feel that the marriage was over / unhappy ... Like I say we all have our own perceptions, hence may feel your new partner was to blame for your split?

Perhaps your ex-wife still loves you in some way, hence the venom directed against your new wife, Or perhaps she cannot cope with the ultimate rejection, or is just bitter ... Whatever, you are not going to change things, especially by confrontations.

Your perception is that your new partner is in your own words "great", but that is not the perception of your ex, nor do I detect it ever will be.

I would try to ignor as much as possible, you, your friends & family know your side, & support you in this. Assault is wrong be it verbal or physical and should be treated as such, police, courts or totally ignoring the events (where possible). Other than that, maybe time will aide in reducing the angst or maybe it wont.?

An unavoidable situation really sorry JJx
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22 Jun 12 #338460 by hawaythelads
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Jellybean
I know one thing You don''t leave your misus for another woman if you''re just holding hands.

Even if you never consumated the relationship prior to leaving(which I''m highly sceptical) I bet you was in bed with her with the night you walked out.

I''m just telling you why the wife hates the other woman.
I''m sure you run her a close second anyway.
She knew you was leaving that''s your argument.
You was leaving for another woman.
She''s never gonna believe but the old we never done it until after I left.
Every person who commits adultery comes out with that bxllshxt.
IN MY EXPERIENCE NO ONE REALLY GIVES A FECK ANYWAY!!
Your ex can go round slxgging you and the new partner off and most people will look at her as a nutter.
I found all the people I knew still went round the house I bought for the BBQ''s I used to put on after I was evicted with the ex harridan and Bazza. She was the one who''d been fecking around.People really don''t give a flying feck about morals they are more interested in free beer and a burger that''s how deep the moral fibre of this country actually runs.
So don''t worry you''ll be fine that''s the best part of being human people can conjure up a justification for most bad behaviour they carry out.
HRH
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22 Jun 12 #338461 by jellybean78
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HAWAYTHELADS-I know it sounds unbelievable that we never slept together- but if we did, i would have said I had an affair, when I started this post...I''m not scared of being slated on here, I''m just trying to get a way of dealing with the situation so I am being as open as possible about what happened.

I know in the grand scheme of things, it makes no difference, as I left for another woman, and as another person has said to me earlier in these posts- it was an emotional affair which is even worse...i guess I never looked at it from that point of view, and Im grateful it was pointed out to me.
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22 Jun 12 #338468 by sun flower
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ok, I hold my hand up to my bitterness....but just let''s say that some people are more than willing to share childcare. It is cheaper than babysitters
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22 Jun 12 #338470 by sun flower
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.....but of course I can''t comment on your own situation.

You just have to be happy with who you are and how you treat people around you...it is you that has to live with it.

If you think you have been honest and fair, and that you have treated the mother of your children, and you children, with every respect - then so be it.
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