@itsfinallyover- I don''t need to justify my actions for leaving, but do i need to be persecuted for wanting to change how my life was going?
Marriage is not supposed to be a prison sentence- people make mistakes all the time....i''m sure there are many men in the same situation who are wishing they never got married to their ex in the first place.
On a more serious note, no marriage should not be a prison sentence for either party.
But having said that at the time of reciting those vows, we all thought it was, didn''t we, we all (in a marriage) loved each oth once.
Some feel they tried harded than others, perhaps this is your case perhaps not.
But regardless, I supose as the "leaver" especially when you as the leaver seemed to have a replacement nearly straight away (if not appearing before you left) that is perhaps why your x is acting as she does now.
As others have said, & to put this more bluntly ... Perhaps ... You & your new partner just have to suckit up & carry on regardless, as from what you have said your x will not change (& perhaps in her mind she doesn''t think that she should have to just to accommodate your feelings?).
Personally, on reflection now if there was an ow in my case (were signs & confessions, then retractions, anger & a lack of tangible evidence lol - so not sure) I digress ... But personally I would like to shake her hand & thank her immensely as I wasn''t aware how bad it was (how badly he treated me etc etc) until well after he left ... But that is now.
Jellybean , no it''s not a prison sentence but on deciding it isn''t what you want ,it should be a mutual decision , with discussion and understanding between the two of you .
Not, as frequently seems to be the case , running into the arms of another person and making a selfish ,one sided decision to leave .
How many times does this happen with noone else involved ?very few that i have heard .
Did you work out why you were unhappy or why it wasn''t working ?
If you did then I apologise ,but the grass is always greener and a new relationship is always fun and exciting .
There are always going to be people out there that we could have a relationship with ,it''s just something I believe you should not pursue if you are married .
Work on the marriage ,don''t just give up on it .