ex wife''s treatment of new partner

Unfortunately some people can''t not get past the hurt of an affair.

I would try and ignore it as much as possible. if she know she will get a reaction then she will continue. If she discovers its having no impact then it will stop.

Thank you for your advice...I try to make things easy as possible but it often doesn''t work out.

Sadly your ex might always think she has the moral high ground because she believes that your new relationship destroyed the marriage.

Just because you didn''t sleep with her ,doesn''t make it OK.
You had an emotional affair which in some peoples eyes is worse .
You betrayed your ex''s trust and shared intimate things with OW .
Of course OW is partly to blame ''
It takes two to tango .

You may have ended your marriage before anything happened with your new partner, but you said in your original post you left your wife for her. Your emotions obviously lay with your new partner before things ended with your wife and sometimes this can be harder to accept that a physical act. Like i said, i dont condone the ex-wives behaviour but i know from experience its a devastating situation to be in. You cant really understand the effects it has unless your having it done to you.

Are all men so naive to think the OW will ever be accepted ,either by the ex or older kids who can see what has happened .
Do they really think it will all be happy ever after with no hassle ?
Dream on ....

Personally I was glad to discover that the reason my partner left was because he was having an affair. Suddenly it all made sense to me. That I hadnt been imagining that he was pulling away, that I hadnt suddenly changed. It also meant there was no going back. Yes it hurt a lot but having a reason allowed me to heal.

It also made me aware of the things I wouldnt put up with in a relationship again. The lack of communication, moodiness. secret keeping.

I did find it hard to trust to begin with but now I have moved on and I am happy in a positive relationship.