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Ahhh, but that is not indifference. Hate is not the opposite of love. Indifference is. Marshy talks about moving to acceptance. To me, that means really accepting what has happened and really understanding your role in all of it. This is really hard work and could take a while .
have never felt hatred for a person like a do for him right now.
You don''t know that. You might think you do but that is not true. You don''t know what he is thinking. You don''t know how he is dealing with his pain or how he is ignoring it. So don''t assume. It''s far better to focus on you and your stuff. Eventually, I hope, you honestly won''t care.
he can put 32 years of marriage behind him in the blink of an eye.
don''t feel bad about feeling bad
I still can''t imagine being with anyone else (partly because I feel so bitter and twisted) so I think that also hurts,
that he can put 32 years of marriage behind him in the blink of an eye.
I ought to know by now that the ex doesn''t have the emotional intelligence to even realise what he is doing is unkind.
My other son and family are living with me at the moment and it appears that this woman was taken to the house that my son is renovating, so they have met. My son would not understand how I feel and it''s not fair to expect him to discuss it, so I have to put on my ''brave face'' and then crumble when I go to my room.
I thought I''d got past all the digging and snooping stage but now find myself searching for clues on the internet all over again. I feel so pathetic - we are divorced for goodness sake.