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i am already divorced and my ex has tried to pull my youngest son away for me for financial gain. it worked for a while but now my youngest has realised money does not buy love. He was nasty to me and stole things from me. my son whos 10 even told me i should be in hell. after christmas my son told his father he wanted to live back with us.his father hithim in his back hard it marked him. since then he has quite often told me his father hurt him.I contacted social services, but they did nothing. Last week ss knocked at my door. My son who has been very down and withdrawn has made allegations to a teacher about his father.They are doing an assesment. Can anyone tell me what this involves.I just want my son to be happy, and worry free.School has recomended i take him to doctors and referred him to Child and family mental health. so scared

They will visit and talk to you and to your son on his own. They will also want to speak to your ex. You shouldn''t be worried - you have done the right thing by having your son come to live with you, which will be seen as protecting him from his father''s violence and a good thing.

If your son is depressed then a referral to Child and Family Services is a good idea. You may have to stress how depressed he is to get an appointment quickly - they can do emergency referrals but things have to be pretty bad to get them.

You shouldn''t be scared. Your son is making allegations about his dad, not about you, and about things that happened when you weren''t there. They will support you and your son.

Best wishes,
Sadie

What a very distressing situation you find yourself in. Your poor son. Thank goodness he has you to count on and protect him.
The school will do their best by your son. Ask them if they have an ELSA teacher. That is a specifically trained teacher to help support emotionally. We have one at our school, more and more schools do, she can help your son, like a child counsellor.
Everyone will want what''s best for your wee boy and will be trained to chat as unobtrusively as possible. It will be a relief for your son to get it all off his chest and have help with his worries.
It is natural for you to feel worried but as has been said you are doing all the right things. You have nothing to be scared of.
Your X soundsca very intimidating man....let''s hope the right authorities sort him out. He clearly needs help if finds hitting a child acceptable:angry:
Big hugs.