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I just want to be held...

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04 Jul 12 #341198 by onedaymaybe
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I''m sure i was in denial as I was so calm, but now 3 months in....I just want a man to hold me, to be the stregth around me, to hold me up as I fall apart.
Friends are great, I love them but they are not here in my weakest moments- at night. It''s crazy that for me its a man a partner- at this present moment not the one that wants me back, the one that caused all the pain but just someone....How do you do it alone?
I sound so weak...I am holding it together to work and for the children........

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04 Jul 12 #341199 by Furball
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One day, I am there with you. I don''t want a sexual relationship but to have someone strong hold me, stroke my hair and tell me I can do this would be the most wonderful thing in the world.

(((Virtual girl hug.))))

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04 Jul 12 #341201 by Margot123
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No you’re not weak...not weak at all...please do not think that, it gets very lonely indeed and you are not alone... personally, I “buried” myself into magazines, books (I have had 3 to 4 books on the go at the same time) and “read myself to sleep” and try to block out the need....

I am sure plenty of people on here will have lots of ideas and offer you lots of support
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04 Jul 12 #341203 by NoWhereToTurnl
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One day and Furball,

As an older lady and can be adopted mum, I will put my arms around you both tonight, keep you safe and warm and send you love.

This is the toughest journey you will ever take but I promise both of you, you will come out the other side stronger.

Big hugs girls, your in my thoughts,
xxxx NWTT

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04 Jul 12 #341208 by onedaymaybe
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Thank you- it helps just to get it out there and have some response to my feelings.

All these tears are exhausting.....

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04 Jul 12 #341210 by Margot123
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They sure are.....

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04 Jul 12 #341224 by Now Gone From Wiki
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As a man abandoned by his wife I know exactly how you feel. It is still very new and raw for me but I can imagine things will get worse for me before they get better.

It is not weak to want affection, nor is it weak to feel sad when there is none. You are right that you must be strong for your children.

I have only joined this forum today and can see that there is a wide range of incredibly supportive people here who have shared and are sharing your pain. I hope that gives you comfort and for good measure I will add my very own ''Virtual Hug'' (patent pending as it actually works!)

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