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Remembering Nightmares Flashbacks

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21 Jul 12 #344480 by Yummy_Mummy
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Can someone please help me?

I am not on medication; I have seen several doctors and they don''t believe they need to give me anything.

I am becoming a bit forgetful; missing my appointments. Sleep is still very patchy but the problem is nightmares and flashbacks. I''ll wake up in cold sweat, heart racing and weep.

I do feel tired - quite a lot and am napping alot but not all the time.

My therapy sessions have also reduced.

I am not sure how I am feeling - a little detached.

My main concern is the flashbacks and nightmares about what had happened.

Has anyone else been through this or going through it?
Anyone out there who might be able to shed some light on this please.

Thanks.

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21 Jul 12 #344491 by sexysadie
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Hi YM,

I used to get these but they just stopped after a while. It takes time but I think it''s your mind working through things so probably good in the long term. Not nice to wake up from, though.

Best wishes,
Sadie x

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21 Jul 12 #344544 by u6c00
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Hi YM

I have a friend who suffers from flashbacks. She told me that the biggest help for her is to get on her feet. That reminds her that now she able to run away, and makes her feel safer.

I imagine your therapist may have some useful tips on dealing with flashbacks and the after effects. Also, try the Mind web site. They are extremely helpful if you ever need to contact them.

If sleep is a problem, you could try valerian root as a herbal remedy. Personally I don''t put much faith in herbal remedies but some people swear by it. You can pick it up from somewhere like Holland & Barrett or another health food shop. Also it is found in Kalms which you can get from a pharmacy. Check with a doctor if you''re on any other meds though because herbal remedies sometimes don''t behave properly with prescription drugs.

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21 Jul 12 #344553 by Yummy_Mummy
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The nightmares and flashbacks are related to the abuse?

I am remembering things now.

The abuse was subtle to an extent that he and others think I might be being paranoid.

The situation became that I was walking on egg shells, tiptoeing...and when the shell cracked then it was all my fault and there would be a big price for me to pay then there would be physical abuse - a smack or I would reduced to stay in my room and be told not come out.

I used to get the shakes and I still do, became and still am (often) a nervous wreck.
Then I was told that I was mad, insane and then he would convince me showing me the state of me; made me look in the mirror when I didn''t want to but he would make me..showing me what a mess I was - physically, mentally and emotionally. he would then tell me to keep away from the children and he would convince me that I was an unfit mother. It would carry on until I did what he told me to and I gave in.

I can remember him going out and taking the kids without telling me and me looking to come out and my keys were hidden so I ran upstairs saying ''stop the car'' but he didn''t and the children waving to me. Me holding back my tears waving at them, blowing kisses and then they were gone.

Didn''t know where they had gone, what time they d be back.

I am frightened. :X

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21 Jul 12 #344561 by redwine47
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Hi yum mum.......... Do not worry this is normal....

You have been through a Traumatic time. Your mind is trying to catch up with alll sorts of memories, events, and thoughts which are jumbled up and your dreams/nightmares is the brains way of coping with your thoughts.

These dreams flashbacks can be very traumatic energy sapping but try to see them as a positive thing in sorting ur inner thoghts.

I am no expert but from experience I keep a pen and paper by my bedside and note these dreams while fresh and refer to when my mind is somewhat clearer and in time they make sense.

I don''t know if you have sought counselling yet but they may be able to help and you will realise you are actually coping much better than you think.


Best wishes




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21 Jul 12 #344565 by redwine47
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Hi yum mum.......... Do not worry this is normal....

You have been through a Traumatic time. Your mind is trying to catch up with alll sorts of memories, events, and thoughts which are all jumbled up and your dreams/nightmares is the brains way of coping with all these thoughts.

These dreams & flashbacks can be very traumatic, energy sapping but try to see them as a positive thing in sorting ur minds inner thoghts.

I am no expert but from experience I keep a pen and paper by my bedside and note these dreams while fresh and refer to when my mind is somewhat clearer and in time they do make sense.

I don''t know if you have sought counselling yet but this may enable you to get things into perspective and hopefully you will realise you are already in the recovery process and are coping much better than you think.


Best wishes




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