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wammcl
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23 Jul 12 #344760 by wammcl

Topic started by wammcl

I''ve been doing really well - for about 10 days now - but it''s back, sitting at my desk and the tears keep coming. Why can''t he do the right thing and agree to the proposal my sol has presented him with a week ago? I take on the mortgage and debts for me and the kids, he keeps his substantial pension and pays maintenance for the next 3-4 years. It''s as if he doesn''t want me to have anything over him but he''s the one who wanted out and a ''quick and fair'' divorce. He has dumped me and the kdis, effectively and seems so unaffected. Why won''t he do the right thing? Do I need to push it through court to get deadlines set and to have an end to this nightmare? 5 months in and no progress - waiting for date of Nisi - I want someone to wrap me up in their arms and say "it will get better and you will be ok and you will laugh again and there is another life for you..." It''s so hard keeping on going and I feel so alone.

letty
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23 Jul 12 #344764 by letty

Reply from letty

Hi

things will get better - i am in a similar situation and have days like you do but i just keep saying to myself things will get better over and over again.

I sure they do this to us to make us give in and just walk away becuase the pain is too hard to deal with at times - but please dig deep into your reserves and keep saying to yourself things will get better.

Now Gone From Wiki
Platinum Member

23 Jul 12 #344780 by Now Gone From Wiki

Reply from Now Gone From Wiki

It sounds horrible. I know that feeling that you''ve been making progress and then suddenly it is like you''re back to day 1, square 1 with all the corresponding pain.

The only thing to add is that at some point soon the good days start to outweigh the bad days.

(((HUGS)))

Gloriasurvive
Platinum Member

27 Jul 12 #345644 by Gloriasurvive

Reply from Gloriasurvive

Big Hugs.
It does get better and with time you will be truly and deservedly free.
Do not give in! You may think it is tough just now, but it is better than living with a lifetime of regret that you didn''t finally stand up to him.
Even though he walked away he sounds like he wants to still be in control.
I wish you luck and good fortune.
GS

wammcl
Posted by
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27 Jul 12 #345690 by wammcl

Reply from wammcl

I think that is exactly right. No principles, and I thought that was something he had Thank you Gloria - it''s so nice to have support on here x

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