I''ve been doing really well - for about 10 days now - but it''s back, sitting at my desk and the tears keep coming. Why can''t he do the right thing and agree to the proposal my sol has presented him with a week ago? I take on the mortgage and debts for me and the kids, he keeps his substantial pension and pays maintenance for the next 3-4 years. It''s as if he doesn''t want me to have anything over him but he''s the one who wanted out and a ''quick and fair'' divorce. He has dumped me and the kdis, effectively and seems so unaffected. Why won''t he do the right thing? Do I need to push it through court to get deadlines set and to have an end to this nightmare? 5 months in and no progress - waiting for date of Nisi - I want someone to wrap me up in their arms and say "it will get better and you will be ok and you will laugh again and there is another life for you..." It''s so hard keeping on going and I feel so alone.
things will get better - i am in a similar situation and have days like you do but i just keep saying to myself things will get better over and over again.
I sure they do this to us to make us give in and just walk away becuase the pain is too hard to deal with at times - but please dig deep into your reserves and keep saying to yourself things will get better.
It does get better and with time you will be truly and deservedly free.
Do not give in! You may think it is tough just now, but it is better than living with a lifetime of regret that you didn''t finally stand up to him.
Even though he walked away he sounds like he wants to still be in control.
I wish you luck and good fortune.