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mixed emotions is this normal?

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30 Jul 12 #346245 by what a shock
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Having suffered from depression for some years, the recent decion by my ex to separate came as a comlete shock. However, as I recover from the shock I find myself with a sense of relief and certainly do not feel depressed at the moment. I cannot work out if this is a temporary state of affairs or perhaps a more permenant change to my state of mind. Any advise on how to capitalise upon this new found mood would be greatly appreciated. Does this strike a chord with any of you? Is it normal?

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30 Jul 12 #346246 by JamesLondon
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Well if your life starts to go well with work and your social life not suffering then you should have no reason to be depressed.

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30 Jul 12 #346247 by Stumpylad70
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What I have found is that there are good days and bad days. Its a bit of a roller coaster.

There will be days that you are relieved, there will be days when you are devastated. Though I am told that these times will even out. And eventually you will reach some kind of equilibrium.

As for me, well I am having a couple of bad-ish days. Miss my son, even miss my wife. Stuck at home on my own. Going to speak to Solicitor tomorrow to discuss my options as STBX seems to be determined to rape my finances. Hopefully tomorrow will be a good day, and I will have a clearer picture to deal with.

The one thing I tried to do to capitalise on the good days was to do things around the house that were needing attention. Decorating, DIY and that sort of thing. It did help, and the house is looking better for it. I dont know if that is your cup of tea, though it really isnt mine to be honest, but I did get a lot done and the house will be in a more sellable condition.

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30 Jul 12 #346251 by what a shock
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Thanks for the reply. I am not in my home so your DIY therapy is not really an option. I guess you are right about the roller coaster I want to find a way to consolidate the sense of relief that I feel now.

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30 Jul 12 #346254 by Lori321
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You may start to understand what was making you depressed. It could of being the relationship with your husband that dragged you down, so ensure that what you are doing now you continue to do. Be your self and enjoy who you are.

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