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31 Jul 12 #346309 by Now Gone From Wiki
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Today is my son''s 12th Birthday. Unfortunately, my STBX absconded with him five weeks ago and is blocking all attempts by me to see him. Next Monday we have a Directions hearing with regard to a contact order. I don''t know where she is living and did not think that a human being could be so callous.

She ''dumped me'' by text message whilst I was overseas, has refused to give me an explanation (although I now think someone else is involved), has hidden herself away, changed her name by deedpoll and generally acted like a harpie.

I think she wanted everything to be in her control but I put in a disclosure order and contact order very quickly and last week petitioned for divorce.

All of that is in the future but for today it is my son''s birthday and I won''t be seeing him :(

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31 Jul 12 #346317 by stepper
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Sorry to hear that Mark. It must be very hard for you. I hope all goes well for you next Monday.

If you have a good relationship with your son the fact that he is now 12 could be helpful to you in the future as from that age children should have some choice regarding contact.

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Thanks Stepper,

I have a very good relationship with my son. Last year he and I went to Kenya for two weeks together (alone) and also did a week in Connemara and a week in Antrim. We are always playing (normally soldiers I have to admit as I have hand-painted him around 5,000 1:72 scale ones from different eras).

The thing we did almost every other day was to go for ''drives'' where we''d sit in the car and drive around for anything up to an hour just chatting. We did it three times in the week before she absconded and he was fine, which implies he didn''t have a clue what hit him when the day came for her to depart.

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31 Jul 12 #346339 by Crumpled
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Hi mark i am so sad to read your posts i hope that you soon make some progress to see your son.I cannot believe how callous people can be to each other and especially when you have been in such an intimate relationship with someone it is appalling.It is also so awful to not let you see your child.My stbx has been horrible to me but i would never stop him seeing our children............i hope that you son has a happy birthday and that your wife comes to her senses and lets you see him.

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31 Jul 12 #346347 by perin123
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Hi Mark

I find it so unbelievable how people change when they split up. It is even more unbelievable when children are involved, how one partner can use the child.

I hope all goes well next Monday. xxx

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