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08 Aug 12 #348279 by perin123
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Well ex cancelled 2nd attempt for mediation appointment, so we have been given one more then they will not see us.

All along I have done what his solicitor has asked, and he just keeps changing things.

I need closure on this now. I will wait and see what happens at mediation, (a.if he turns up!!! and b. what he wants) then I will have to get a solicitor to sort it. I can''t carry on living in limbo, struggling to pay everything while ex swans around spending left right and centre and giving me nothing towards his own son.

Rant over....:angry::(

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08 Aug 12 #348284 by fairylandtime
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Perrin (((hugs)))

I know it takes forever (or seems to) & this is frustrated further by x''s who appear to want to draw things out.

It does end though, honest there is a light at the end of the tunnel :)

My x seemed to stall on everything, spent the first year chasing via sols cost a fortune, chased myself in 2nd year via court & biting my tongue / just jumping through the hoops needed to get on by the end of it.

But got there, & now things couldn''t b better :woohoo:

Hang on in there & fight for you & your children''s future.


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08 Aug 12 #348311 by Inamess
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Hey fairylandtime, oh how i wish i was in your position right now lol! as we speak - 18mths worth of sols letters and no further forward, then 18mths of limbo, no money to take him to court and sols advice - best just to wait till he gets fed up, look at your settlement as your future investment, I''m 54!! I dont want an investment, I want to get a life, I need to get what I''ve worked for the last 23 years. any help gratefully recieved :(x

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09 Aug 12 #348426 by perin123
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I''m 2 years on now and still no settlement!!
Anyone would think we had millions to fight over, there''s hardly anything!!!

I too just want to get on, Ex has re married and has his life, but seems to be dragging his heels where mine is concerned..:angry:

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09 Aug 12 #348429 by QPRanger
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Hugs to you all: I''m (only) coming up to a year of this and can totally relate to fairyland''s post as I spent thousands of £££s with my ''expert'' solicitor to get me precisely nowhere and am now fighting the cause on my own...

Like others have said there is no money to fight over for me (apart from money owed to my poor Dad and tied up in the FMH) but I have a stbx sitting pretty in the FMH and ignoring everything and everyone...

Limbo is a horrible place to be: closure is what I long for...

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09 Aug 12 #348444 by WhiteRose
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Why not go straight to Courts - looks like he''s giving the run around ............:(

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