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Stop your fecking moaning about kids

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13 Aug 12 #349321 by hawaythelads
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Loads of posts on here about moaning about kids on the school holidays.
Selfish teenagers not abiding to some pre menstrual obsession that the kids have left their room untidy.
Well just take a deep breath because my best mates daughter aged 15 has died last week from leukemia 10 days after being diagnosed.
So next time when they are being arsey thank God that they are still there being a right royal pain in the rse rather than bemoaning your royally anal sense of hard done by ship.
Remember one day if you are lucky they will grow into adults and have all the shxt mundanities of life that we all grew up to have to do.
So for fecxk sake start appreciating what you have got and how fecking lucky u are.
All the best
HRH xx

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14 Aug 12 #349326 by tinkerbell1606
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Hrh, sad news indeed. So sorry to hear of your friends child, a terrible loss for any parent. My kids range from 25 all the way down to 11, they''re my kids, it''s in the contract, get born, look cute, grow, get grown up teeth, go to high school learn to say no! I have experience of both the pleasure & pain of parenting, and I wouldnt change any of them.
Don''t sweat the small stuff, and it''s all small stuff compared to life & death.
Get even watching the grand kids wreak havoc and smiling sweetly!
Tink x

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14 Aug 12 #349350 by WhiteRose
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Sorry to hear about your friend''s daughter. Too quick, too soon.

My heart goes out to her parents, family & her friends. I can''t even begin to think about what they''re going through.

You''re right & hopefully after reading your post someone will be a little more patient, yell less and give their kids an extra tight hug today.

WR x

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14 Aug 12 #349352 by asram
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(((Haway))) - So sorry

I used to love the school holidays, no rushing around and more time with the kids. As for the mess if you don''t like to see it, shut the door and ignore it. As long as nothing is festering....

Take care


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14 Aug 12 #349357 by freefalling
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(((Haway))).... I am so sorry.... and my heart goes out to those poor parents.

It does put things into perspective... you''re right... life''s too short.

Be grateful for what we have .... focus on that.. and not what we don''t have.

Take care
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14 Aug 12 #349370 by julie321
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I cannot imagine the pain your friend must be feeling. I am totally with you on this. I have never really sweated that much how the house looked as long as the kids were happy and healthy. Like you I beleive that a time will comw when all the cr*p of adult life will hit them and they will have to deal with it themselves.

I guess I have spoilt my two by running round after them but my eldest is now in work and running his own home very well so it did him no harm.

Keep on doing what you do.

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18 Aug 12 #350293 by rubytuesday
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I''m a bit late in replying to this but wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about your friend''s daughter.

You are right in saying we need to start appreciating what we have rather than focusing on what we don''t have, or feel we should have.

Life is cruel and unkind at times, we can''t change what has happened, but we can change our outlook. We are only responsible for our own behaviour and actions, not those of others (ie our children''s other parent), and no matter how "wrong" or unfair or selfish we may feel the other parent is, ultimately there is nothing we can do about that.

Those of us who are privileged to see our children daily need to remember that despite all the hardship, our children''s smiles, laughter, hugs are priceless and more than worth all the angst, frustration and difficulties we go through.

To never know when, or indeed if, you will see your children must be heartbreaking - a living death to be lived through every single day. My partner didn''t see his son for 7 years, and now 2 years after his son coming to live with him, he still finds it difficult to believe that at the end of each working day, when he returns home, his son will be there. And for your friends, and his family, knowing that his daughter is gone forever must be beyond comprehension.

I count my blessings daily, yes of course I worry about money, about making sure I am the best parent I can be for my kids (and I do get it wrong from time to time), but I am blessed to see their smiles, hear their chatter and laughter and be able to hold them. Just that makes all the crap more than worthwhile. I am very lucky.


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