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Leaving Las Vegas.....

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18 Aug 12 #350372 by QPRanger
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I saw this film at the cinema in 1995: it stars Nicholas Cage as a man who has lost everything (his wife, family, house and career) and decides to go to Las Vegas to drink himself to death. He meets a girl living a similar life of self destruction (prostitution) and strikes up a relationship but this doesn''t divert him from his chosen path. The film ends with his death...

At the time I remember thinking it was a good film but I could NOT understand why he was doing that to himself: surely he could re-build his life? What was wrong with him?

17 years later and I find myself walking the same road as that man...and NOW I understand it. I tell myself I need the vodka/wine/beer to help me sleep, but I don''t think it makes much difference really as I wake up repeatedly during the night. Alcohol dulls my pain...temporarily.

I''m an intelligent guy with a decent job but logic holds no sway when you are in the grip of depression and alcohol: I know my excessive drinking and smoking is killing me...and I just don''t care. Its the ''legal'' way to commit suicide isn''t it?

There IS hope for me...but only if the legal system finally brings justice for me and my family. It hasn''t so far but its not QUITE over yet...

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18 Aug 12 #350384 by livinginhope
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I''m sure you already know that Alcohol actually disturbs sleep and also makes depression worse so it''s definitely something to try and avoid altogether or to cut down drastically.It doesn''t help the situation at all.I''m speaking from experience and not from an anti Alcohol stance.
It may be worth considering visting your Dr for help to get over this terrible phase of your life.You may not believe it now but life can improve and it helps to be healthy to enjoy it when it does.

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18 Aug 12 #350385 by ascatfish
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I''d suggest visiting your Doctor and seeing re anti D''s and counselling . You obviously recognise you have a problem and thats the first major step :)

If you can;t sleep and you have a smart phone type thingy Id really recommend you check out Andrew Johnson''s hypnotherapy apps - there are some free ones for you to see if they are for you - there''s one called "relax" and one called "move on" :)they wont do any harm

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18 Aug 12 #350386 by ascatfish
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I''d suggest visiting your Doctor and seeing re anti D''s and counselling . You obviously recognise you have a problem and thats the first major step :)

If you can;t sleep and you have a smart phone type thingy Id really recommend you check out Andrew Johnson''s hypnotherapy apps - there are some free ones for you to see if they are for you - there''s one called "relax" and one called "move on" :)they wont do any harm

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18 Aug 12 #350387 by QPRanger
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Cheers guys: I''ve been on ADs for nearly a year (Venlafaxine) and have been on a waiting list for therapy for 6 months.
The tablets....stop me from feeling anything, allowing me to function to a degree. I''m an emotional being: I miss crying.

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18 Aug 12 #350388 by QPRanger
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Cheers guys: I''ve been on ADs for nearly a year (Venlafaxine) and have been on a waiting list for therapy for 6 months.
The tablets....stop me from feeling anything, allowing me to function to a degree. I''m an emotional being: I miss crying.

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18 Aug 12 #350389 by afonleas
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(((qpr)))
Also saw the film,yes it was good,the end well lets just say not how good films should end.
Your recongnising that you are using the drink as a crutch,this alone is good so maybe now is the time to address these problems.
The drink only numbs the pain,it''s still hidden away somewhere so confront it!!!
This week I have realised that total confrontation is good for us,so try it.
The AD''S,maybe you need to change your script,please go and see your GP about it,you are still hurting so much,but with help you can get out of the black hole,QPR there is a life waiting for you,a life that is good but you just have to find it,at the moment you are not looking for that life,still so hurt by your old life,but we must trust in ourselves that something better is there for all of us,and in due time you will find the peace you so desire.

QPR
Take care
try to reduce the smoking and drinking
Luv and cwtchs
Afon xxxx.........................

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