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25 Aug 12 #351900 by honeybeeee
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I know that for a lot of folks reading this you will think that I;ve truly gone off my trolley...

After 30yrs plus,we finally have our own (mortgaged to the hilt)house with a large garden.

All my plants/shrubs etc I kept them in containers, & lovingly cared for them.
Coming here I was at long last able to plant them out & they came on in leaps & bounds.

Now I have to leave here.....

People say, they are only plants, & you can just buy more in your new place.
loads ofthem have been with me for years.

This time round, I won''t be able to take them with me (the cost of the Removal) since we''ve been here we have done a lot of hard work on garden.

So YES as my Husband has told me " I''m v. selfish "
That is to say, I''ve done all the physical, & he has enjoyed the fruits of my labour.

Go on, I know what you are all going to tell me, so just say it......

By the way my / our garden is looking gorgeous at this moment in time, & that makes it even more heart breaking....

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25 Aug 12 #351901 by fairylandtime
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(((hugs))) honeybee and no I know exactley what you mean. Especially as you have put all your work into in you are not being selfish, so forget that!!

I am no gardener unfortunately, plants unusually run (or die) when I touch them. Lol.

However, since the split the once nver touched garden Now has a veg patch, and some fruit, have hacked own a tree, prepared an area (eyesore bit tbh) to be decked and got some free fencing that me and my eldest (after persuasion and possibly cash) will help me put up. The garden is a work in progress as am I, it is hard work but helps and looking back at this and the decorating I have done since the divorce makes me proud of my house and so may it continue.

So your feelings re your house is natural and don''t let anyone tell you different.

Through out and before the split this house was my prison, psychologically mostly, spent 99% of time in my bedroom, hated coming home and if not for the kids would have run a mile and never looked back.

But now it is my haven, having a duvet day today (no even dressed yet lol) - would have never been able to do this before, weekends were the worse. Sat here in my newly decorated (to my taste) bedroom watching tv 3 films so far.

My post is not meant to upset you further and I hope it doesn''t, you are just startinng out, it''s hell really it is but it does get better honest it doesn''t I now love my space whereas before hated it. You will move on and it will get better and you will once again look back with pride at your garden, house and future life.

Stay strong JJx

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25 Aug 12 #351904 by sun flower
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I don''t think you are mad - quite the opposite - I completely understand - and it''s not just about the plants - it''s about everything land of fairies talks about - loss of love, of home and the loss of something you have worked for together for years that he then did not value.

On the plant front - is it too late in the year to take cuttings - just little pots to move? Or damn it, is it just worth the extra cost to take a few - throw out the cat! (joking - really!) - because sometimes these things are not about logic, they are about what keeps you sane at the end of the day (she said with a nervous twitch and turning her head 360 degrees!)

I know - it''s about the loss of our dreams together.

But a woman who has kept her plants in pots all those years is a homemaker, and I have no doubt you will make a new home - but not without pain as fertilizer and all that guff.

I feel for you - hugs.

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25 Aug 12 #351950 by sun flower
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I had a another thought about this (I''ve been at home much too much this week)...anyway - when you do get a new home garden - and people ask you if you would like a house warming present - ask for a plant - or ask friends, if it is spring to bring a trailer from a plant in their garden - so your new garden, or pots is a symbol of new growth, new friends etc. Could family do this for you? I know you can''t ''ask'' but fellow gardening enthusiasts would be glad to share - good luck.

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25 Aug 12 #351952 by Marshy_
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Hi HB.

honeybeeee wrote:

Go on, I know what you are all going to tell me, so just say it......

By the way my / our garden is looking gorgeous at this moment in time, & that makes it even more heart breaking....

I dont really know what to say. But you know me, I always say something ;)

Its like leaving your babies I am sure. A house is just bricks and mortar. But plants, they are alive. Just like you and I.

The only thing I can say to you is that its a bit like loosing someone or something you love. There will be some tears. But really, life must go on.

I find that when one door closes, another is waiting to open. And we better ourselves by moving on.

You have had a practice at a good garden. You may think that this was yr perfect garden? But I can assure you that it isnt. The best garden you will ever have is yet to come. So although it will seem like a goodbuy. Its just a see ya later. Hope that makes sense. C.

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