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well, this morning, I finally let it all out...

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Just thought I would post.... I feel so better for crying, though feel a bit embarrassed re new friend on here I just let my rant out to....

It is natural to feel frightened upon undertaking divorce proceedings or seperation, what ever stage you are at. Also natural not not be be able to sleep, eat,etc.

I kept it all together until tonight, well this morning. I will apologise to the recipient tomorrow.....

But sometimes it just has to come out....I am sure the recepient will understand....

There is only so much anyone can take, and it happened to me tonight/ this morning. My damn finally burst, and I let it all out...

Yes, I am very scared and fearful of stbx (DV case and so scared to even submit my D8) but to all you out there up at 3am, this site really is great. I found it, just like you did and from going from depressed lady, who lurked about for months before actually joining, have got sooo much strength from this site and from the lovely wikis on here, who give of their time - and knowledge so freely. So much so, am almost able to have the confidence to proceed forward now.

Point is, I had my melt down, tonight, sleep deprived. check me out, always on here early morning..... To get back on track, just saying that this is a wonderful site. And anyone who reads this, in same state of sadness and depression, I was able to let it out tonight.... all thanls to the frineds I have made on here.

Just a late night/early morning message to those viewing, who may be in need of words of support this time of morning, thats all. Sometimes you just have to let it all out: I was fortunate to find peeps on here, that let it happen for me today. Embarrased, yes, you bet. Thankful, yes.... I let it all out today with my new friends on here..... so anyone out there at this time of morning, you will get a lot of suppport on here.

Ok, think I have said enough... I really do need to try to sleep now; Night all

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26 Aug 12 #351974 by sun flower
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There is a wiki on here who saved my bacon by phoning me when I was very low - she knows who she is.

Don''t be embarrassed - it can be a short cut to some very supportive friendships.

I hope you are feeling better this morning. sc

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26 Aug 12 #351982 by afonleas
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Mrs Sadness and Claire,
Yes through joining this site,we have all found support and comfort when we need it the most,and yes I really do find that the nights were the hardest,

Thankfully for me,I have made a circle of friends,who are there 24/7,okay one is the other side of the world,so always have someone if I needed them,as I am there for them when they need support.

Throughout this magical(NOT),mystery tour of
seperation/divorce I have found that I can tell strangers more than I can tell my own family(hence my strangers are friends)maybe this is because we are all experiancing very similar feelings and thought processes.
All i know is that this site and the people on it haved saved my sanity,ok admit we have shared many tears, but also many laughs and i know that certain individuals will be in my life always,whichever way my life will proceed.

Mrs Sadness,
Don''t ever feel that,we all had our meltdown,maybe now is your time to heal.

My luv and cwtchs to you all
On this lovely Sunday
Afon Xx......................

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Mrs Sadness,

You have no need to ever feel embarrassed, it takes strength and courage to reach out when you are frightened and vulnerable, and as afonleas said, "its the start of you healing".

We all react to this awful journey, its a grief process that has to be worked through and although you doubt your ability, you have already come a long way. Once you have got your Petition in tomorrow, yes its scary but, you are in the driving seat, you are regaining control of your life.

Never doubt your ability, friendship is a two way thing and your new friends want to support you.

Stay strong and be as proud of yourself as your friends are. :)

Big hugs xxx


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Best thing about this place is that whenever you cannot sleep you will always find someone similar in chat.

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Just doing my thank you''s - yep, I have found this site invaluable, and chat room is also very heart-warming, the few times I ventured in there last week! Sorry been away on my sabbatical: just wanted to say thanks for all the replies, and the last, JamesLondon. Cheers. Bye for now.

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i have just phoned my work and burst into tears i feel better for it but i still need to see a doctor,i am going through a divorce and the pressure is too much i cant concentrate on work there is too much going on in my head to focus on my job,its good to know that other people are going through the same

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