my divorce is dragging me down :-(

Hi i''m new on here,

i filed for divorce in june on the basis of 2 years seperation from my ex but he has thus far ignored all letters from my solicitor forcing my legal costs up and dragging things out. i felt so empowered when i found the courage to get a solictor and start the ball rolling but now i just feel so lonely and empty and stressed out from it all and it''s only a couple of months in!!!

does anyone know have any advice for keeping upbeat when all i feel like doing is giving up and crawling under the duvet

Hi janejane

Welcom to wiki (((hugs))), but the only answer I have is no ... Crawl under the duvet - sorry

These things take time and even though we decided that my ex would Petition due to him getting legal aid and I old do the finances it took just under the 2 years to get divorced (with UB as the reason) and a further 6 / 7 months to get the finances sorted!!

In that time I sorted out a mortgage 4 times, in anticipation but it wasn''t to be.

Having said all that now 30 months on all sorted and life is getting better

So answer is no but there is a light at the end of the tunnel - honest. In the meantime I suggest:

You look after yourself and your children if appropriate
Take time for yourself and treat yourself
Try not to chase so much, or do it yourself and not via sols (£26/per 6mins!!! You can run up a big bill easily.
I read books (self-help) have a happy divorce from relate, and divorce for dummies so I knew what what happening when and what I should do etc
Another one was be your own best friend - had to rebuild a lot after x left.
And yes ... Occasionally have a duvet day (had one on sat myself, read, tv nice food and didn''t even get dressed )

Good look and stay strong

JJx

You say that you are relying upon two years separation by consent but you do not appear to have consent. Ideally you should have obtained written consent from your spouse prior to issuing the Petition.

Charles

we agreed before he moved out to wait 2 years i guess now it''s come around he isn''t so willing anymore i stupidly thought he would want closure i know i do!!!

thanks for the advice i hope it doesn''t drag on for 2 years like yours has i defiantly need to educate myself on divorce