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Can I change the locks?

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31 Aug 12 #353046 by sunshine5050
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Hi. I''m not sure it this is the right place to start this thread but I''m after some advice about my rights after my husband leaves the marital home. We are still currently living in the house and he is due to move out in about 3 weeks. The situation is very volatile to say the least and he has made it perfectly clear it will get even worse when he moves out. He cannot understand why we are splitting up and is convinced I am seeing someone else. This couldnt be further from the truth. I just want a quiet man-free life for me and my kids after an unpleasant 7 years with him. He has sworn to turn up at the house regularly day and night until he finds me with someone and then I dont really want to put on here what he has threatened but it scares me rigid. Obviously I won''t ba taking any risks on that front! But my basic question is am I entitled to change the locks and put bolts on the doors, etc, to give myself and the kids some peace of mind and safety once he has moved out?

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31 Aug 12 #353049 by MrsMathsisfun
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If the house is in joint names then legally I dont think you can change the locks, but sure you are entitled to put on a extra bolt or two!

If you are concerned for your safely please inform the police.

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31 Aug 12 #353050 by Action
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If he is frightening you that much you can try applying for a non-molestation and occupancy order so that he''s not allowed to go anywhere near the house. Keep a note of all the threats. I''m not sure how easily one would be granted if he''s not actualy done anything violent yet. Hopefully someone on here can give you clearer guidance.

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31 Aug 12 #353052 by sunshine5050
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Thanks for your reply. The house is only in my name - do you know if that makes a difference? I dont really want to involve the police at the moment as I know it will make things worse. I know I may have to do this at some point but I''m just trying to keep things as calm as I can at the moment for all our sakes.

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31 Aug 12 #353055 by Action
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I''m not sure if this makes a difference I''m afraid. Is it just your name on the mortgage and land registry? Did you already own the property before you were married?

You must put your safety and that of the children first and if you are truly frightened you must tell someone.

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31 Aug 12 #353058 by MrsMathsisfun
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If the property is solely in your name then I would think you would have the right to change the locks.

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31 Aug 12 #353061 by sunshine5050
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Yes its solely in my name on the mortgage and the deeds and was mine before we were married.
I mentioned possibly calling the police once when he was threatening me but he made it quite clear that if I did that he would then have nothing to lose and it would get worse. I should say that he never used to be like this before I said I wanted us to split up. I always knew it was in him but he kept his temper in check whilst we were together. Unfortunately dealing with us splitting up has made it impossible for him to control.

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