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I don''t get why she just wont talk to me.
How can she not see this isn''t the case.
Tbh Iv''e made it very clear to my current partner that the step dad role just isn''t for me atm with everything going on.
For exactly the reasons you stated. I''d hate for her daughter to get attached to me for it to simply not work it just wouldn''t be fair. As you said it''s more than just me and her at stake. It doesen''t help now that the fact it''s going to be more complicated with me moving location and transferring Uni''s to be closer to my daughter but also suppose it will give me time to properly think about things and us in a sense.
Like you say until I shed the guilt which I think will take a very long time I''ll just have to deal with it.
Marshy I disagree about the guilt: its only natural and, if you know that you have done things wrong in your previous relationship, the guilt gives you the opportunity to learn from your mistakes and become a better person.
I think I will live with my guilt for the rest of my life: not in a ''can''t move on and beating myself up every day'' kinda way because, like the grief and depression, the guilt lessons with time but I don''t think it will ever leave me. It will remind me NEVER to put myself in the situation I was before.
On the other side of the coin I honestly believe that my ex has NO guilt and truly believes the breakdown of our marriage was 100% down to me (it wasn''t).
I think you kind of misunderstood when I said I wanted to be the fun uncle. I ofcourse would be there if she ever needs support and if things worked out and went long term financially I''d support etc etc.
Yes her Dad isn''t the best. He pays CM and see''s his daughter every now and then (when he can be bothered half the time) but my partners daughter is very attached to him and it''s very clear to see. So is there a need for a step dad role as your put it? I dunno how to explain it really.
The problem is that I don''t know what I truely want. I know i''m incredibly fond of my current partner and yes it''s early days but it''s going very well.
She''s obviously been there for me to date when Iv''e been in court etc etc and going back in couple months time. I''m probbaly a pain in ass half the time well I am lol and she''s been amazing even if I don''t talk to her about stuff like this etc.
I''d like to talk about it tbh but I''m from a pretty disfunctional family myself. I don''t really have a real relationship with my parents. I was packed off to boarding school from the age of 11 and when i left age 16 I moved into my own house which they paid for. Bar my sister I don''t really have many people who I trust to confide in.
My EX wasn''t perfect ofcourse but she was a very special person to me, like i said me ending it was more about me holding her back as much as anything.
I feel more like a coward than courage and confidence personally but that''s another matter.
Don''t have to be sorry what your saying makes sense In a way lol I appreciate your time and honesty
But when i''m down in the dumps I feel i''m just not the right person.
This is another problem in the fact that me and my partner have huge differences in how we bring up our own children or how we''d like them to be.
I''m quite the authorative person probably stems from my own father and she''s very laid back nd lets her near 2 year old run wild half the time and drives me nuts lol.
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