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07 Sep 12 #354426 by downland
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Isn''t it funny how you can go months and months and months through all the c**p and one little incident can make you feel you havent moved on at all. Had words with stx today and it was just like nothing had changed at all, same old same old, only thing that has changed is there is a bit of paper with ''nisi'' on it and rest is brick wall.

Oh well, best seek out large demolition crane to batter the wall. Reckon I must have only been using a sledgehammer till now and that is obviusly not enough.

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07 Sep 12 #354429 by Marshy_
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It could be that yr dealing with someone you once knew and he is part of your past.

You have moved on. But that part of your life is set in concrete. He is part of that concrete and its never going anywhere apart from over.

Just get this done. The thing that says Absolute. Then you will be free and can start rebuilding. C.

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07 Sep 12 #354464 by downland
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Marshy you are right, looks like the long expensive court route to sort out finances as have had enough of dancing to someone elses tune, not necessary either as would be able to split property half and half and even avoid having to sell FMH, but he has it in his head that the portion of property I would like (as he does not want to sell house and I could not afford to live in it even if I wanted to) will be worth more ''in a few years time''.

Pensions are about equal, no SM involved only CM, which it is only right and proper one of us should pay depending on eventual residence of child.

Impasse, wont sell, wont split, just wants to sit things out until the assets reach the sums he thinks they should in his head. Maths was never my strong subject but a) in your dreams for that money - even a few years down the line and b) life is tooooooo short and it is time to move on.

As to someone I once knew, I dont think I ever did - that is part of the problem ..........

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07 Sep 12 #354478 by Marshy_
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downland wrote:


As to someone I once knew, I dont think I ever did - that is part of the problem ..........


It happens. And its the same for all of us. But one day, he will wake and realise that he has to move on and sort things out with you. U have the kids. And I can understand why you want to stay where you are. But there is nowt as queer as folk. Just gota ride it sister. C.

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