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Please read this. It changed my life

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01 Aug 08 #36659 by fenhawk
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Yes,it is.

Don't give up on yourself.

Richard

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01 Aug 08 #36710 by ScoobyDont
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oldgreymare wrote:

Being a 'single' after 42 years of marriage is depressing, very depressing. I hear the words of comfort you are giving, but my mind becomes frozen.

Maybe I can move forward, but is it worth the energy?

Too late now


I know someone who was married for 29 years. His wife left him. He was absolutely devastated. He wasn't a young man at this stage. After a short time he took a trip to Goa. He lived like a king there for 6 months and only spent including airfare around £2,800. After he came back he started a project building some new flats on some land he had. He also threw himself back into his music that he plays live. 4 years on and he's now with someone and seems very happy. It took 4 years but he's there now. NO I DON'T BELIVE IT IS EVER TOO LATE!

Best of luck

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04 Aug 08 #37315 by toucan
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"Life is best learnt backwards, but can only be lived forwards"

Mistakes will be made, and the only way you can learn not to make them is to make them in the first place.

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04 Aug 08 #37324 by Sera
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You would have been to me, my perfect caring dad.


Zara,
I lost my dad at five yrs-old. Abandoned. Years ago I read a book called 'Father Loss' (Just googled: Amazon have five copies at £2.50) here:

www.amazon.co.uk/Father-Loss-Daughters-D...217846340&sr=1-5

It's about daughters discussing the loss. It helped quite a bit. Actually at £2.50 I think there'll be one less by tea-time. I've lost my copy.
Sera
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04 Aug 08 #37327 by Zara2009
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Thank you Sera, I will definitely have a look at that book, I coped for most of my life, but it is silly, I am now 50, two boys 30 and 28 and I feel they should know more, after all it is their lifeline. Am on geneology sites to trying to trace the family. Not easy as my Mum finds it hard to talk about!! As I was a fling! in between marriages. I have started writing my own book and so far have reached the age of 16, it will take a while but I hope to leave it for my grandchildren, only adult reading as there are some really horrible parts of my childhood in there. Have found that poems and writing my book has helped so much. thankyou
Zara

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04 Aug 08 #37333 by Sera
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Zara2008 wrote:

I have started writing my own book and so far have reached the age of 16, it will take a while


Brilliant idea! My mother was orphaned. She did theraputic writing at Morely college in London. It helped her a lot. A few years ago; she started writing her life story; (Wartime child in an Orphanage) Her journey took us through her years as a teenager in Cornwall. (It was fascinating reading; and it's a long time before I was born; so I got to know the person my mum was before).
My mum didn't have much money; and one Xmas she handed each of us a gift-wrapped A4 envelope: her words "it's not much, but you might like it"....

...she gave us her story; and it was the best present I ever had. Sadly; the story ended with the words ....
"and then I met your dad..and you know the rest".

Do this for your children, and their children.

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04 Aug 08 #37350 by Zara2009
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Hi orry how rude of me, I did not ask you anything at all about your aspects on not having a Dad. Did not having a Dad make you stronger, or not?
What a fantastic post how brilliant. Is it not a shame that everyone could not just put a few memories down so it can be passed on down the generations. But Sera you could then add on from ........ 'and you know the rest' and start the book again from your memories. I thought I did not remember much, but once I started it all just came flooding out. It does not have to be a minute by minute account. It has certainly taken my thoughts away from many other unwanted situations. I think my book, or memories, will make a few people take in a deep breath, but it all will be the truth.

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