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12 Sep 12 #355418 by stresseduk
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I,m in court for final hearing in october and have no funds to have a solicitor. my x is a control freak who tried to buy my youngest son away from me with gifts and promises of a better life. my son who is 10 is in mental health now due to the things his father has said and done. i am delighted my son is back home with us all. I have 3 sons 20, 16 and 10.X wants to move back in the FMH were we are, but the boys all want to stay with me. will the courts make me leave the home, as i am unable to buy him out yet. Really scared

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14 Sep 12 #355887 by Marshy_
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Dont be scared. Although this process is scary. What I found is the things you worry about dont happen. You will be OK. Just keep yr chin up Sis. Big (((Marshy))) hug from me. C

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14 Sep 12 #355917 by livinginhope
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It''s so hard not to worry and be scared by everything when faced with the unknown. I worried every step of the way during my Divorce and kept toturing myself by thinking what if he does this,what if he does that?None of the things I worried about happened and I had caused myself loads of stress for nothing.Try as much as possible to carry on your life as normal and do things that help you relax and give you pleasure don''t let worry take over your whole life.It will all be over with eventually and you have your sons who love you and I''m sure they will support you in any way they can.
LIH xxx

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