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15 Sep 12 #356001 by blonde cazza
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When does it actually get better...i keep telling myself that it will but when.
I had my divorce through 3 months ago..I know i should count myself lucky as ive come away with a house fully paid for but ive still got 6k of debt to pay off and although my ex said he would pay off our joint loan hes missing payments which in turn has messed up both of our credit ratings.
I thought i had come through the worse but my ex is still continuing to try and mess up my life and im now feeling the pressure.
Ive tried to contact him with regard to this loan but all he does is ignore my texts and turns his phone off!
Ever since i asked my ex for a divorce all hes done is make things hard for me and make me have added stress and make me ill.
When do these ex partners move on and let you try and pick up the pieces in your life.

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15 Sep 12 #356103 by soulruler
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Divorce is a bitter pill but on the bright side independence however shackled is a better way forward.

You cannot get into someone elses mind once they have either made the decision to leave or have been forced to accept it.

If you want to know why, and I have asked myself that question so many times I can tell you my belief, my belief is that is someone wants to leave you in the xxxt they will that is their "right" you will never be able to be negotiating on what an abusive person believes to be their right, rights are what you get away with so a joint debt paid by you is his entitlemennt to abuse you, and the account holder.

That is life, hard as it may seem we do not live in some eutopean dream (only at night and in best endeavour).

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16 Sep 12 #356257 by Marshy_
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Hi BC. I know it feels like you should have moved on by now but its been what 3 months? Most people dont feel truly free until they are divorced. And for you its still a bit raw and the dust has not settled yet. Just give yourself a bit of time for things to settle down. And one day, you can start to enjoy your home. The one that is owned by just you.

No one truly walks between the raindrops and there was always going to be tremors after the earthquake that was your divorce and nothing ever runs smoothly. Esp things of value. So just keep going. It will all sort itself out. And then you can truly restart your life afreash. C

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