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Depression and Debt

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21 Sep 12 #357111 by soulruler
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Not sure whether I should be publishing this as a blog or whether it is a post but today I got my third visit from a baliff.

Boy oh boy is it hard trying to get financially untangled with a controlling and spiteful ex.

I suppose there is a whole load more that I would like to say about the allegations that fly round the courts about me, all malicious and all false but no matter what the allegations are about, whether child contact, false allegations about financial conduct or anything else, they certainly do wear you down after a while.

Sometimes I do wonder where the person I used to be has gone, used to be happy go lucky fun loving mum and have gone down these past 4 years into drink dependent, anxiety ridden nervous wreck.

I have gone from solvent to triple bankrupt(didn''t even know you could be triple bankrupt) in a space of 4 years.

Unbelievable what some bitter ex-s will do not only to their "dearly" departeds but their children and their parents in law.

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21 Sep 12 #357116 by livinginhope
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I can''t really say much to help but didn''t just want to read and move on without a reply.
Eventually you will be free of all of the horrors you are facing and will rebuild a happier life for yourself.I do sympathise because it''s obviously hell at present.
LIH xxx

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21 Sep 12 #357125 by sun flower
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Soleruler - just the same from me. I hope one day you are and feel free and clear of this man - so I wish you peace and freedom in the future.

I see you as one of these people who works for the CAB or some other support network having learnt and survived so much yourself.

You will be a wise lady - I know anyone of us would rather be the fun loving Mum you were before - I wish you peace somewhere in life.

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21 Sep 12 #357129 by Paul.
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Whatever is said in the court is hot air.
It''ll float out of their mouths, and be inconsequential to you, your life, or your children.
Once you get to the other side of Divorce you''re free to become yourself again.
Debts, they can''t take you out and shoot you, you know.
Triple bakrupt?
Pah.

Your hearts beating inside you, your brain works, you''ve got all four limbs working.
You WILL be fine.
Paul.

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21 Sep 12 #357130 by soulruler
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Well you both made me cry so thankyou in the right way for that.

Scary, my ambition at present if I can survive all of this is firstly that my small money divorce helps reform in a way UK Family Law but what I would really like to do at the moment is work in some way for an organisation like the Freedom Programme as they were a life saver to me at the point I realised that both me and my children were victims of DV but especially mental abuse.

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21 Sep 12 #357134 by julie321
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Soulruler

Just wanted to add my best wishes too x

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21 Sep 12 #357136 by soulruler
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Paul

The allegations that are flying about court should be hot air, I totally agree but my problem is that the allegations flying around court are on solicitor headed paper and even though extremely malicous and false until my case is concluded there is nothing I can do but stand round and be persecuted by litigation solicitors.

Legal speak is harrassment via a third party - harrassment via legal teams is just about the worst thing imaginable as far as I am concerned. Scares the living daylights out of me what they believe they can say without the slightest bit of evidence.

I really hope that they are not going to get away with abusing a controlling ex who has since remarried and a family in a small money divorce all of whom have complex emotional needs and various diabilities.

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