Rubytuesday I agree we are going a bit off thread and apologies for that but I feel I must respond to Rugby.
My daughter is in no way responsible for my happiness she was merely making an observation which as a 14yr old she is entitled to.
It sounds to me like your judgement is marred by your own experience.
I have never demonised my husband to my children in fact I have done the opposite to this and for you to make this presumption is wrong and typical of the behaviour which he exhibited.
With regards to the original thread I too agree court should be avoided which is why I have done everything to enable my children to see their father, it is not my fault that he ruins this every time, it is not my fault that he has shown his true colours to everyone now, it is not my fault that he belittled me in everyway possible, it is not my fault he chose to sleep with his step niece. My only fault is taking 22yr to stand up to him.