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Confused - Strategies for staying strong

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21 Aug 08 #41820 by amos
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Well - I'm really confused. I seem to have hit the crossroads. Any direction seems uncertain. I have a good job, 36 years old, have a critical illness.

Keeping the job appears to be futile, I'm not sure if I'm fooling myself in believing that if I hold on to things now that will provide me security for moving on. Or should I just not give a damm and just be ruthless in achieving quality of life.
I'm so confused. Trying to be objective but feel like a sitting duck!

How have you managed. What strategies have you adopted in achieving stability during the transition from being married to being single?

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21 Aug 08 #41835 by Petrof
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Hi Amos,

I have just replied to your other post.
When my ex left our family, my friend who is a psychoanalyst said to me. This is the time when you need all the stability you can get, do not make any rushed decisions, don't change anything. I think she was right. I did change my job though, because I had no idea how I am going to manage with the finances with two children. this job is more challenging, stressful but better paid and it helped me feel good about myself.
I think it is impossible to stay strong all the time. You go up and down.
Lots of people get help from their GP, medication, counselling.
I also decided I have to do something for myself, so I am having sessions with a hypnotherapist. The 1st session last week helped me in staying calm and not getting anxious. I also sleep much better since then.

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