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Keith''999 pain and distress

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17 Apr 14 #430392 by Vastra1
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That''s fantastic that your daughter was able to tell you through talking and with her soft toys what it''s like for her, what a special 7 year old she is. Good to hear you''re feeling much more at peace.

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18 Apr 14 #430426 by dilbert001
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Guys - thanks for all your posts xxx I really mean it and thanks for all the emails sent privately.

Not sure what to say really - but none of us can be held back by the past we must enjoy the past, acknowledge what it was, but it was the past. it was great, and now we are on new journey - one that is with different people, different experiences. Please let go... acknowledge and let go, move on.

As so many of my other posts lead to .... its forgiveness that allow you to move on. Declan''s point about he could have done better to save his marriage.

For me - we all could have, otherwise we wouldn''t be here! But imagine NO matter what you would have done the outcome would have been the same.... it wasn''t what you were doing - their time had come. they needed to move on. (nothing to do with you)

Difficult i know, but when you embrace it - it really becomes easier because you will stop feeling any guilt about what you didn''t do..... it was always going to happen.

Love you all to bits and thank you all xx

PS my daughter and i are planning the summer holiday - she wants to go back to turkey. Have a fantastic weekend - and remember you truly are an individual you don''t need anyone else to be whole!!

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18 Apr 14 #430428 by dilbert001
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Something that may help - have a listen to the Maha Mrityunjay Mantra

It is so powerful yet so peaceful!! xxx

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18 Apr 14 #430432 by Declan
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Your on your journey fella .
You''ve made a start . Be wary of running ahead . Don''t wanna lose you now . Do we ?
Look after Keith big time . And of course your wonderful daughter

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19 Apr 14 #430510 by dilbert001
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Hear you loud and clear!! and sometimes it does still hit me, at the strangest moment - getting something from a cupboard, pulling something from a draw. But - last night i got all the old photo albums out, looked at over 10,000 photos on flicker.

I wanted to immerse myself in all the thoughts, memories, experiences that we had. Yep cried an awful lot, but unless i really confront all of my anguish - head on, i cannot move forward.

As I always say (bet your be bored with it soon) I do forgive, my wife needed to take a different path that''s all.

Having looked at all the photos - we had some great times. And i am sure we will have more - just not together.

The thing that will bind us - probably until we are both dead is our daughter... for her we both must dismantle the boundaries of negative thought - however we feel, the anguish the pain. We as parents - MUST focus on providing the love and support to her. We both love her - just not each other.. that''s all

Hope everyone is having a great weekend - i am cooking, gardening - was going to replace some fence posts then find out the blackbirds have nested - so now have to wait till they have flown the nest

Love to you all xxx

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