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06 Apr 14 #428969 by Hollyxxx
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P.s I was told by mitchum , that acupuncture can help with this 3 am wakening .

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06 Apr 14 #428991 by Mitchum
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Yes, I had the 3.a.m. wake up every morning, just a few minutes either side of 3 I''d be awake and I often hadn''t even tried to sleep until after midnight.

Those hours just before dawn are the worst ever once the brain becomes active and the thoughts begin to spiral out of control. I used to get up. I knew it would not get any better lying there.

However, I went to an acupuncturist for a boost to my immune system and for general well-being. She told me that in Traditional Chinese Medicine the hours from 3.00 - 5 a.m. are considered the grieving time. It makes sense doesn''t it, given the number of wikis awake at that time? She used points to push waking time more towards 5 then 6. It worked for me, but I did use other strategies too.

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06 Apr 14 #429004 by stemginger
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Glad you are finding a way through Home Alone. It''s like reclaiming lost land isn''t it post the break-up. You reclaimed your right to going out, to dressing up and I''m sure it took it out of you as it''s bloody hard....get those sandbags built up so you keep hold of this new old bit of you re-emerging. It probably felt new and different last night but it''s important that you did it. Glad you have found a counsellor too.

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I have to admit it is not easy to do but I am open to try anything that will try and make my life a little bit more comfortable now.

It is such a scary thought thinking of the future when you had been planning it for two.

Counselling is good it has allowed me to discuss things that I had kept inside deep while in the marriage. It has also made me realise that it was not all my fault that the marriage broke down. It is now easier to accept my side. What I cannot do is make any more excuses for my OH''s behaviour.

I''m hoping this will make me stronger. Don''t dismiss it if you have not tried it.

As for going out again that was a really hard thing to do. I sort of felt guilty about going out and enjoying myself but what the heck I''m sure the OH is not worried about me at all......

As always thanks for all your support x

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