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Clear Out

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04 Apr 14 #428657 by Declan
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Hi wikis
Well ! I''m having a massive clear out . Already been to the skip twice.
Got another load to go . Thought I''d have a brew and toast first.
Dropped a bit of a bollock though I threw some of my ex s stuff out by mistake.
Funny though , I don''t feel guilty about it .
Anyone else had a clear out or need one it sure does feel good in a funny sort of way . Throwing away the past . I know someone had a car boot sale and made a few bob . Good idea that . Not sure I could do that .
Imagine roll up roll up got a load of my ex s shit here anyone wanna buy it . One pair of adulteress knickers for sale here .

Well you get my drift

Have a nice day my friends

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04 Apr 14 #428665 by Declan
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Not sure where this original message went into the ether maybe.
Anyways upshot was I am having a clear out and by mistake threw some of my ex s stuff away . Strangely , I didn''t feel guilty about it . It was nothing major just some old walking boots . What did hurt was throwing out all the children''s old toys. That brought back a lot of memories . Also , stuff that we used to have in the caravans .
Garage looks a lot less unclutttered now so let''s hope it does the same for my brain .
I know someone had a car boot sale and yep that''s a good idea . Not sure if I could have done that though .
Yeah, in some sort of way it''s quite cathartic letting go , at the same time sad.
I just knew it has to be done and now I must be ready because I''m doing it .
Anyone else , having a clear out or thinking about it then I would suggest just do it. Part of the healing process and an acceptance . Well , it is for me my wiki friends,

Have a good day

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04 Apr 14 #428707 by positive41
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But it''s hard isn''t it. I am packing house at the moment. Big lump in my throat and exhausted. Packed photos away last night. Couldn''t look at them yet...one fell out of us dancing together a few years ago, we looked so happy....who knew??? Cried, had a glass of wine and phoned my Mum and blubbed to her as well. I think this is the hardest thing I''ve ever done, but it has to be. I hope I can find a small house for kids and myself and turn it into a real haven for us. Working towards a new future doesn''t half hurt, but there is nothing else for it!!!

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04 Apr 14 #428723 by Hollyxxx
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Some one had a boot sale!!!! Declan that was me, first one ever, dreaded it, and I am going to it again this week loads of positives in doing one.
1. you are helping people who do not have much money, find what they need for hardly anything.
2. you are helping the environment , not putting it in the land fill.

3. you make a few bob, and can spend it on something for you or the house, that is just about you, win win situation.

so get out there and have a car boot, I really enjoyed it ( after the first few minutes when the hard dealers surround your car, not nice!), but stay in the car and let the vultures move on to the new cars that arrive, then you meet really nice people. my friends are staggered I did it, lets just say no one ever thought I would do or go to a car boot!!!, but I really enjoyed it:) .xxxx

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04 Apr 14 #428751 by Declan
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Hey positive and holly
Yep working towards a new future life is difficult . I agree with that . It''s casting off the old and accepting the new . After all, we do like our comfort zones .
Holly , yeah it was you . Heck woman you have certainly had a massive change of mindset in such a positive way . I take my hat off to you Holly .
Yep , I get the positives from doing a car boot sale .
I guess each of us in our own way go about our business and grief the best way we know how.
Listening to that person inside us that says . Declan , what the hell do you wanna do with this. And sure enough , the answer just comes right back at me .


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05 Apr 14 #428757 by HeadKnowsHeartDoesnt
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I don''t have that much left to clear out - he took most of it yesterday. What I will find hard facing is the stuff in the loft as I know there is a box of letters and cards I have sent him and he has sent me over our time together. For now it is out of sight, but I will have to go up there one day and sort it out - perhaps I can do it with my eyes closed!?

I have already ripped up some wedding photos that were in frames, thrown out a handful of soft toys he gave me. I tried to give him back my necklace, but he left it behind and I think I have lost the necklace he bought me for this valentines day. I was gonna give that back too, as I don''t think it was brought with the intention of love in mind.

If you cannot do a car boot, why not try a charity shop, if it''s kids toys, if suitable why not donate to a local nursery or playgroup, they will always be looking for good quality items.

Good luck
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05 Apr 14 #428759 by Nigella19
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I think it would be hard to hand over a ''treasure'' one at a time and see someone walk away with my each memory ... but I wish it wasn''t.

So, church bazaar and similar for me.

Positive, how I feel for you. Was in same sitch. But you keep that little haven for you and the kids as a vision and keep working towards that, it will help get you through and will become a reality. My heart goes out to you.

Nige

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