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Stuck in the past ... How do I get out of it

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24 Apr 14 #431163 by hawaythelads
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I''d love to get rid of my past......permanently.
But it keeps ringing me up when there''s trouble or money issues :huh::huh:
All the best

Ahhh...That first coffee ....normal service has resumed :blink:

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24 Apr 14 #431165 by Declan
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Well,, I woke up this morning to the sunshine . Reading the replies help me along . Feeling better this morning , thank you all for the support . I guess I just gotta sit it out and try focus on my future . What will be will be . Thank you my wiki friends . There is no easy way at all through this , is there . Ex is in her Shangri- La I''m picking up the mess left behind .
Or are they in Shangri- la . Might create a new thread on that one .


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25 Apr 14 #431311 by #prettyfedupactually
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Hi D - reading your post made me think a bit. I got divorced from my first husband about 10 years ago and he is now a friend. I have very clearly accepted and moved on from what happened.

I got remarried 5 years ago and what has happened with my second husband is a different matter. He has been having an affair for 18 months; sometimes it''s over, sometimes it''s not. And, even when it is over, I am stuck in the past, worrying that the horror is going to start all over again but I stay with him because I can''t accept that he isn''t the man I fell in love with. Like you all I have good days and bad days. I want to bottle the good days and stay in bed on the bad.

The good news is that I know from experience with my first husband that things will get better and that I won''t always be stuck in the past. I can learn to accept what has happened and I refuse to be beaten into submission by someone that is has been such a happy part of my life.

Stay strong and be true to yourself.


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