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26 Apr 14 #431414 by Finale
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Thankyou

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29 Apr 14 #431765 by Declan
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Hows finale.
Riding the roller coaster still I guess. Yep, not a pleasant ride is it. Just be aware that there are a lot of us sat on this ride some just on it some been riding it a while and some sick of it they wanna get off .
Some already got off it and waving us on .
So , welcome to the ride , our stop will come . We have to say enough I wanna get off and do something about it . Fortunately , we have wiki members kicking our backsides to get off it . Your stop wil come .

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29 Apr 14 #431776 by OliveOyl
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Finale, we all know what you''re going through and we''re here for you. I''m only a few weeks into the journey but the kind and wonderful people here are so, so supportive. Try to take care of yourself and your children. It will get better.

Sending you big hugs
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29 Apr 14 #431780 by Marshy_
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Finale wrote:

I''m desperate ! Husband walked out 12 months ago as said he couldn''t handle me or my stress any more - I though I had a rock solid marriage of 25 years - now I don''t even function -- well I go up and the down thankyou


Feeling the way you do is fairly common. You were dumped by someone you believed in and shared your whole life with and someone you gave your heart to. And when they walk out... That hurts sister.

But he is a fool. He walked out on someone that had dedicated her life to him. You just dont get that kind of thing often in this throw away world and you did it for 25 solid years. I think you should apply for a long service medal!!

But what to do? I think you have acceptance issues. You have not accepted that its over and that you need to learn to say goodbuy. Its something we all often have trouble with. In time, you may look back on this period and smile at how you was and that this was the turning point for you.

Often there is a couple of stoppers or large boulders along the road to recovery. I think what may help you is to get some talking therapy to seek a path past these big rocks in the road in front of you to enable you to accept what has happened and work towards getting over this problem. Life hasnt ended. Its just not begun yet and you are in limbo. But you can turn this around and your life can begin again. You just have to want it bad enough. C.

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