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Not sure I can do this

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05 May 14 #432395 by OliveOyl
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05 May 14 #432396 by Declan
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Hey oliveoyl

You have the strength the courage and the will within you . We just have to find it .
You see, olive your heart and your head are not in tune so obviously you are going to feel pain . You will get through the next few days.
Firstly , read the poem by Mary Oliver called the Journey it starts

One day you finally knew what you had to do , and began , though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice......... Ending as you strode deeper and deeper into the world , determined to do the only thing you could do , determined to save the only life you could save .

Yep sweetie, that''s you alright , now read that .

Also , the words of AC grayling in the Last word on loss.

But we do not forget our losses because loss especially of those we love, or of the crucial places or things. Re shapes our world and obliges us to learn again the task of navigating it .

Tough times woman indeed , however , you know in your heart of hearts that a happier future lies right ahead darlin

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05 May 14 #432397 by Home alone feeling better
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Afternoon OliveOyl

I''m sending you some of my strength. Be kind to yourself it''s not your fault these things happen.

You are a strong person you just don''t realise it yet.

I''m also sending you some hugs, we are here for you as we have all been there and felt the pAin.

Hugs xxx

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05 May 14 #432398 by elizadoolittle
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Hello Olive ((()))

Trying to send strength, not that I feel I have much. You will manage. Why are you ''stuck'' with him? It is easier when you are apart, I think. Not easy of course not, but easier.

Many on wiki advocate a 60 day no contact rule. It can be hard to implement (especially if there are children) and I think it is not long enough, but it does help if you manage to cut yourself off from the to-ing and fro-ing and associated agonising over communications.

It''s hard to know what to do and you may find you have many things you want to say and many questions to which you would like answers. In my experience you don''t get any satisfactory answers, only silence or lies, so keeping apart is probably best.

The passage of time helps, and getting to grips with your own feelings.

Good luck.

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05 May 14 #432401 by OliveOyl
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05 May 14 #432402 by Declan
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Olive
You can and you will . I was in similar couple years ago whilst in Australia . visiting my daughter whom was working out there at the time .,
Yep , it wasn''t good . Just wanted to be home and not there . I understand the feeling . Trust me you will get through this .
Would you be willing to take control of the situation from him .?
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