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Not sure I can do this

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05 May 14 #432404 by Home alone feeling better
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I know it''s easy for me to say this but can you get a room for yourself or a place to stay rather spending soooo much to come back?

Who understands how these men''s brains work? One thing is sure it''s not in his head !

I''m sorry to hear you are far away at the moment and you feel isolated but you have friends on here that you can talk to.

You are better than this, your OH is quite capable of making a choice he just won''t. So it has come to you to make it for him, how selfish is he.

I''m hoping you will get something out of your break even if it''s only a bit of sunshine.

You look after yourself and remember you are not alone.

Hugs x

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05 May 14 #432411 by Declan
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Yes, you are not alone . It''s tough taking some control. However , you have removed some power from him . His ego will hurt .
It''s the new beginning of Olive for me . You are looking after Olive . Seeing to her needs . Only you , and you alone can do that .
We support you . You are not alone sister ,

D x:silly:

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05 May 14 #432418 by Hollyxxx
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Dear olive xxxxxxx ,
I think you have made your dissuasion , and I think the right one, would you want to be with someone who had to THINK to be with you? who hesitated and is not sure? no you deserve better, if he is unsure who he wants to be with, well sorry you deserve better, you take care, you will get through this believe me, I was married 30 yrs very happily until another caught his eye:( , and if I can get through this you can too, safe journey home, you have wiki, loads of us have experienced the pain you are going through now, and we are surviving:) . xxxx

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05 May 14 #432427 by NoWhereToTurnl
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Pack now, leave him a note saying you will no longer tolerate his behavior, quietly leave the room and go down to reception.

If they have internet/wifi, book yourself into a very nice hotel and ask them to call a taxi.

You deserve better than this, being alone is not the same as being lonely. Stay strong, big hugs,


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05 May 14 #432448 by raybird
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have to agree with others, get another room, another hotel or home, your not alone with us lot :)xxxxxxxx

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05 May 14 #432453 by NL_sadincheshire
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hello oliveoyl

we are with you...all the way from blightey... pack up now so your resolve does not waver in the morning...so that he knows you do realise your own worth... that you will not wait in the wings to be ''potentially (!!!) chosen... that you have more regard for yourself...

if you can afford it, take a room at the other side of the hotel/resort tonight and go...

you ARE worth it!


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05 May 14 #432462 by elizadoolittle
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I am wondering (forgive me if I am wrong) whether you are thinking - at least with part of your brain - that if you stay you will be able to say something that will make him REALISE. I still sometimes fall into that trap after 18 months and want to engage with him because I am RIGHT and he must be able to see it. Problem is so far he just keeps getting wronger. And there doesn''t seem to be a thing I can do.

And maybe also (again I may be wrong) part of you is thinking (even though you are an independent intelligent woman of 60) that you can''t just take off and book a room or whatever without him or without consulting him or whatever. Wrong again. You can if that is what you want.

Yes in some ways it makes things more complicated, in others simpler though. You do not need to put up with doing things the way he wants. Ask yourself what you want and go for that. Easier said than done I know.

Good luck.

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